It’s Time For Spring! 9 Steps To Welcome & Celebrate The New


Dream To Manifestation

After a SUPER powerful full, blood, super, eclipse moon yesterday we have another magical day today – a sandwich of magic love goodness.

I wanted to do a Sage ceremony in my home last night, but it got so late I went to bed – The Lunar Goddess had another idea and not only could I not sleep, but I was gifted with a spurt of energy so went about creating a beautiful ceremony and cleansed my entire home. It felt GOOD – and it feels awesome waking up to a clear home energetically – first time I’ve done it in my new home. the funny, and interesting thing is that when I got back to bed last night there was a screw (yes, like you use to screw things into the wall) literally in my bed, where I lie….  I have NO idea how it got there – I was the only one in my nest last night. Yes, my guides have a wickedly fab sense of humour. When I got back into bed today (I’m having a ‘semi duvet day’), there was a white feather in exactly the same place – crazy eh? Lol. Love it when I’m so connected to the magical, ethereal realms 🙂

[Repost, updated 2017]

Anyway, today is the first day of spring in the northern hemisphere. It is known as “Imbolc” and it is also the feast day of the Goddess Brigid. St. Brigid’s temple is in County Kildare, Ireland and she is the counterpart to Archangel Michael’s warrior energy. She represents the three aspects of woman: the young virgin: child, the nurturing and loving mother: adult, and the sage or wise woman:crone.

Imbolc represents love, new beginnings, trust, and preparing the land (and your life) for new seeds, and growth. The light has returned!

A super powerful day in itself, we also had a full, blood, super, eclipse moon yesterday and we’re still basking in that POWERFUL energy. We also have Chinese New Year of the Dog fast approaching representing unconditional love.

Sooo, it’s an even more POWERFUL day than any other to envision, dream and release. Think about those new years resolutions, or intentions… meditate on how they are going, celebrate, rather than beat yourself up if you’ve dropped some of them. That’s pretty much natural, so be gentle with yourself and use the power of nature to have another new beginning.

Below are a few suggestions as to how you can make the most of this super powerful transition time.

It’s Time For Spring! 9 Steps To Celebrate The New

  1. Visions Dreams Goals

Write down what you DO want on a white piece of paper. Imagine your life just as you would love it, and get clear on how you would love your ideal day to be. You are preparing the land (your life) for the new…

  1. Let Go

Write down what you want to let go of, and either safely burn the piece of paper or tear it up and throw it away… imagining letting go of what no longer serves you.

Love heart in the trees

  1. Renewal, Rebirth – Focus On The New Light

If you have an altar, put some white items like feathers, shells and candles on it to focus on the new coming into your life. The days are getting longer, the sun is returning. It is a time of renewal, rebirth and cleansing so make the most of this powerful energy. You are energetically and metaphorically making room for the new, while signalling the release of what you do NOT want in your life.

  1. Ceremony

Burn a candle in each room of your home to welcome back in the light of the sun, and the manifestation of your dreams. If you have incense or sage, burn that to clear the energy and space for the new. You can do this a few days either side of February 1. If you have a busy schedule, you can just imagine clearing the energy in your home, and office.

  1. Imagine…

Be real about where you are in relation to your vision, or what you want to manifest, then get clear on what exactly you want 6 months from now. Be as tangible as you can…. How will you DEFINITIVELY know that you have manifested your dream?

  1. Be Present (The Power of Wow… Now)

Be gentle and FEEL what comes up when you see the gap between where you are and what you want… if it’s excitement, GREAT.. if it’s fear or similar, just feel it in your body… just being with it for a few seconds will transform it into POWER to manifest your dream.

  1. Contribute

Think about how you can contribute, if your dream is not already about serving others or the world, then see if you can add that ingredient – it makes manifesting what you love a lot easier! Service is an important ingredient in manifesting what we love.

  1. Breathe!

You have done AMAZING work so far. You have set in stone your new vision. Take a deep breath while making a noise as you breathe in, and out… ideally the word ‘Aloha’ which breathes love and new life, love and divinity into your vision.

  1. TAKE ACTION

Most importantly you must take action every day – even if it’s just IMAGINING your dream. It will not manifest on its own, daily action steps are what creates lasting change and wonderful lives.

The word Imbolc means literally “in the belly” in the old Irish Neolithic language it comes from the pregnant bellies of the ewes. It’s time to trust your dreams and visions that are held in your sacred hara (another word for ‘belly’) CAN come true.

Make sure you are focussing on what you DO want… if figures in politics, or celebrities, or others are triggering you, then bring your attention WITHIN… could this be your creation? Do they represent what you detest? Simply acknowledge that they might be triggering you because they are a teacher to show you what you still need to heal. My favourite line ‘you gotta feel it to heal it’ resonates here. FEEL what they are triggering whether it be anger, fear, hopelessness… breathe into the feeling… then come back to peace (which naturally happens when you just breathe and be with the feeling, rather than analysing it). The external world, mirrors your internal world… it is all just a projection. When you feel amazing, your world is amazing. I promise 🙂

 

Comment below – what does this make you feel?

Does it resonate?

What are the people who irritate you showing you?

What are politicians etc. trying to teach you or show you?

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Muchas love to you beautiful one and Happy spring, Imbolc and St. Brigid’s Day. 

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Supermoon, Blue Moon, Equinox


Hello, hello, helloooo…

What a day…

A full moon – and it’s a Supermoon, Blue Moon, AND we have an eclipse too (only viewable in Hawaii).

Oh my Lord …

SO, what does this all mean? Well, it means it’s an opportunity to return to love… to you … to YOUR GREATNESS.

You see, recently we’ve been walking almost like a maze… but instead of it being flat on the ground, it’s a spiral maze… the more you stay focussed on your vision, the easier the journey, because you know – no matter what appears on your path it is for the highest good. When you look back on your apparent ‘tough’ times – the hardest times of your life, most people would not change them – because of the learnings. So if you’re having a rough ole time, just look at it like a schoolroom… see that you are in learning mode… the teacher – is the person who is causing you distress/difficulty. Now I do not mean if someone is actually abusing/harming you – that is a situation you generally need to move away from. What I’m taking about here are situations where people are pushing your buttons, making you feel uncomfortable – triggering emotions like anger, sadness, shame, grief, frustration, anxiety etc.). I will correct my wording there though – because NOBODY can make you feel anything. It is your definition of the situation, what you are making up about what is happening, and your choice to feel what you are feeling. That’s what makes you feel emotions. Whatever the situation, be it your health, relationships, finances, business… whatever you are finding challenging – is actually a giant opportunity to :

1. Get clarity on/Focus on the vision of what you WOULD love.

2. Be clear and real about where you are in relation to that (sets up ‘creative tension’ as described in Robert Fritz’s amazing book ‘The Path of Least Resistance’ which I HIGHLY recommend).

3. Be gentle on you and take steps every single day towards manifesting your VISION.

Are you ‘In Your Power’?

That is what ‘being in your power’ actually means – having clarity on your vision, and taking steps towards it! How cool and empowering is that?

So, there you have it in a nutshell. Have clarity that you are simply in this aMAZE-ing place and you are spiralling UPWARDS and moving closer and closer to what you love. You need to stay committed to your vision. If you would like clarity on your vision, then feel free to connect with me and book a slot for a complimentary ‘Launch Your Awesome’ now breakthrough session – click here to do so. Choose a suitable slot, and I look forward to chatting and breaking YOU through to your higher dimension where your dreams have already manifested. Aloha!

Have an amazeing day and create some time for you to just be and stare at the lunar magic and dreaming your dream! x

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Thank you! x

Woman! It is time to SHINE!


Woman! It is time to SHINE!

Imagination is real

Imagination is love

Imagination is the key

If you can imagine it, if you desire it, you can manifest it.

The lack of belief regarding this simple fact, kept me in depression and anxiety on and off for years. It brought me to the brink of suicide… and back again. Now – my mission is to work with those who need to tap into their self-confidence, love and intuition and guide them towards manifesting a better life. I’m sharing this, because it was in those dark times that I found the light (OMG I sound like an evangelist lol)… but really, as the late, great Leonard Cohen said ‘There is a crack in everything, that is where the light gets in’. There is a light in YOUR dark times… a lesson, a learning, a gift.

My passion is guiding others to first of all gaining clarity on their vision. Seeing what might be preventing them from manifesting it, then clarifying the steps to take to actually manifest their dreams.

Being ‘In Your Power’

You gotta just keep taking those baby steps… depression, anxiety, and related illnesses happen when we are NOT in our power. When we have given our power away to our doubts and fears. When I use the word power, I’m not talking about the kind of power connected to fear, war, governments. No, this is the power of the feminine force going for, creating what she loves gently but FOCUSSED.

Remember the witches, medicine women, the strong, powerful women – they are our grandmothers, our great grandmothers and we hold their power inside of us…

Not only do we have them with us cheering us on, but they also unconsciously have linked their fear and trauma with our souls… often we share the same soul. When I started doing regression work back in the early 2000s I think almost all of the healers that came to me with problems ranging from illness, to problems with their career/business had the cause of the problem in a previous life during which they had been persecuted for sharing their gifts and wisdom.

So, if you feel a bit grim, if you can’t get out from under the duvet, if you are having difficulty with your business, especially if it’s a big assed dream, and you’re on your path… PLEASE have compassion for yourself. After all, there is a BIG, big, big fear in you that has power, it has the power to keep you hidden away, fearful, and wanting life to be over… sometimes you may even consider ‘checking out’. When you make life so bad for yourself, you wonder how you will ever get out… alive. Maybe checking out is easier? That power starts to speak…. In whispers, in visions, in the Goddess coming through… that power that says “NO! Stop standing in your own way – you don’t have to hide away anymore! You are wonderful AND powerful!’ This IS accepted now. You CAN manifest your dreams!

Just keep feeling GOOD!

The New World Paradigm

It is down to you to change this world… and it starts with changing you – in fact YOU are the only one you CAN change. No doubt these blocks will come to haunt you in all sorts of apparent ‘real’ ways like illness, accidents, blocks, trauma, chaos, lost loves and fear of ‘what others will say’. But believe me, there is nothing worse than that constant, nagging misery, fear and pain in your heart because you KNOW that you have something to share, you have something profound to say, you have hearts to heal, you have power to dream… and my beautiful woman – you have a message to share.

Shine your light… shine it on all those dark, grimy, painful, shameful places within you… blow away those cobwebs, and be Grandmother Spider holding the ancient word … tapping into your power. Sharing the words and the essence of all your ancestors who knew YOU were the one to be alive now in this changing of the focus from FEAR back to LOVE. Be not afraid of elections, results, and apparent drama, trauma and chaos. It is all part of the plan. How do I Know this? Because we wrote it. We dreamt it… it all starts with a dream. What we are living now, started as a dream… this is what we dreamt in… in a rather ‘unconscious’ way – might I ponder in a rather judgemental way… please forgive me.

I know EWOP…. Everything is Working Out Perfectly… but only if we keep the dream alive. How do we do that? Keep focussing on what you really, really, really DO want.

 

That.

Is.

All.

 

How the fk do I do that?

You do it by playing,

You do it by imagining…

You do it by feeling GOOD.

Nothing bad ever comes from feeling GOOD!

It starts with thoughts…. I know those pesky thoughts… it’s almost like they have a life, a power and will of their own… but that’s baby talk – YOU are the one who thinks those thoughts. Why do we do it to ourselves? Especially when you think about the horrendous things we say TO and ABOUT ourselves.

Woman – this is the time… NOW is the time. The power is in you NOW!

BREATHE!

 

Author Gerri McMahon

 

ps. I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you.” These words are taken from the book ‘Zero Limits, about Ho’oponopono the Hawaiian healing modality… basically when you say those words, constantly, you are continually clearing, and those words are fed into your subconscious, so what emerges is MAGIC, INSPIRATION, FUN, LOVE.

 

Aloha x

Overflowing with LOVE


Aloha

 

I was just about to message one of my mentors, and ask what to do when I feel totally overcome with love… which happens a lot recently.

 

The answer that came to me before… and again now, was this… share it.
So here I am – blogging – writing, with no idea where this is going … which is one of my favourite tings…. Making shit up. Good shit though. Sorry, but that’s pretty much the only word that will suffice right now… but it’s GOOD shit… ha ha, well I hope so; I hope it’s good for you.  (a little ‘ps.’ here… in a totally inappropriate place… but if you’ve got writer’s block, or you want to tell a story… just start ‘making it up’… it’s another word for channeling… let me know how you get on, and if I’m making no sense at all, pop a comment below or ask me and I’ll explain more about this – but believe me, it’s magic… when you’re making ‘good’ stuff up.).

 

So, what are you making up? Do you make up good stuff?

 

When you’re feeling blue, what do you make up?

 

You see, something I realized recently was that our feelings come first, then the thoughts… often we have a feeling, and rather than just having it – feeling it… we make stuff up about it. We define ourselves, others or the world depending on the feeling. Often those thoughts really don’t serve us and enhance the shit feeling.

 

Howeverrrr…. I know that very often when I had a really GOOD feeling.. like I was feeling AMAZING my little (?!) ego, mind whatever you want to call it, would still make bad shit up! So, I’d find myself going ‘OMG I’m SO happy’, and then I’d hear my internal voice, or gremlin as I started to call it say something like; “Ah yes, but what about….”… (fill in the blank).  My ego/mind would choose an area of my life I could worry about and my great feeling would totally dissipate and be replaced by a feeling of doom, fear, worry etc.

 

FREEDOM!

Photo courtesy of Liza Brown; Mahalo you sweet lady!

 

Right now though, I’m sitting in the evening sun, it’s a summery balmy evening, the sun is about an hour from setting, I can smell the oceanic fresh aroma, and feel the sensual salty sea breeze on my cheek.  The birds are flying around my head, choosing where to settle tonight, the kids are playing down below –only a few weeks into the summer, yet about 75 shades browner than a few weeks ago before the summer break.

Life is good.
I am a lucky lady.

Right now, I feel gratitude, love, and a renewed faith in the words:

 

I’m sorry

Please forgive me

Thank you

I love you.

 

A la Ho’ponopono from Hawaii (see my facebook note (click here) if you want to find out more about that.

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I loveeee you wonderful being!

 

Happy New Moon (“The Void”)


A new moon is a time to herald in new beginnings… AND so that you can CONSCIOUSLY let go of what no longer serves.

Here are some tips to ensure you have a POWERFUL, fun, magic manifesting month!

 

  1. Set an intention and CHOOSE what you would LOVE to change or have manifested by this time next month.

 

  1. Visualise what you would love. Get really clear, what’s your ideal day looking like? Most importantly, actually FEEL the feeling of it.

 

  1. Now you’ve done the work (apart from taking intuitively, heart orientated action), so forget about it. Just let it go… Relax in the knowing that it, or something better will manifest.

 

  1. Keep your vibration high – exercise, meditation, watching your thoughts, avoiding gossip, being GENTLE with yourself. Watch your environment – feed yourself with yummy, healthy, food, water, thoughts – stay away from the negative in the media and others!

 

  1. Treat others how you would like to be treated.

 

  1. Give yourself a flipping break! We can be SO hard on ourselves, at the end of the day it’s only US who is standing in the way of what we love. So, be gentle with yourself. Believe that everything is happening for your highest good.

 

  1. Just before the new moon, and 1 – 3 days after is a great time to focus on what you want to release and let go of. This leaves room for what you DO want to manifest.  Do you want to let go of certain beliefs (I’m not lovable, I’m not good enough, I’m not capable and so on …). Remember your beliefs might (well, they always are so you might need some help getting clarity on your beliefs. You are either focussed on what you love (and that manifests), OR you are focussed on your beliefs (and you manifest more of that). Do you want to welcome in a new discipline like regular exercise or meditation? The moon is powerful, it controls the ocean tides after all. You are mainly water, therefore, you have the power of the moon to support all of your new beginnings and wishes.

 

  1. BELIEVE and CHANGE….  Really – it can be that simple. Look for signs of how fabulous your life is already…. look for things manifesting around you. Obviously you have got to be ‘real’ too, so when things aren’t working that needs attention… but most of your attention needs to be on gratitude. 

 

The secret number 9 key, (as added on November 7, 2018), a few hours before the new moon….

 

  1. LOVE

 

Move into the vibration of love… the best way I’ve found to do this is to sip some sacred cacao – it has to be in the right measure, with the right intention. If you’d like to know more, to buy some, or to take part in one of my Soul Discovery Adventures just message me. When you enter into the vibration of LOVE, that is the vibe of meditation, healing and manifestation.

This is why we’re here… to master LOVE!

 

Come On! Let’s Play!

(Check out this blog click here, for the different stages to manifestation).

New Moon Dates & Times in your area…. 

To find out the dates and times of the new and full moons check out the ‘Time & Date” website – it’s a great page; just click here for the link “Time & Date“).  

The time before the new moon, as the old one dwindles is the void, or ‘dark moon’ as it is known.  It occurs 2/3 days before and after the new moon, when her power is still waning (before the new moon), and waxing or building (after the new moon). It is a powerful time for to plant seeds as the power of the moon works positively with them.  It’s also a great time to metaphorically plant seeds in the form of new ideas, inspiration, dreams. 

 

Goddess Pele

In front of Kilauea Volcano, Hawai’i No photoshop, shocked to see Pele in my heart

 

This photo is a visit I made to see Goddess Pele who is a MASSIVE presence in Hawaii. Her home is the fire – the volcanoes, the lava…  I visited her to ask for guidance on one of my BIG dreams, and I had just had a ceremony and made an offering to her.  

I was literally blown away when I saw that she is coming out of my heart in the photo (the ginormous volcano is behind me)…. She showed me that YOU have the power – it is within you, when you move past your challenges, negative thoughts and beliefs you unleash the power within… YOU CAN DO IT!

Exercise

Here’s a little new moon exercise for you. She is VERY present in this photo, so tune into her and ask her for guidance;

A)) What do I need to let go of?

B)) What is it time to welcome in?

C)) What is the dream I’ve been too afraid to manifest until now?

If you would like clarity on your BIG dream, the one your heart wants to manifest (rather than your head), and know the path your soul is calling you to take, hit me up and we can chat about your options.

 

I love you – happy new moon!

Remember BELIEVE and CHANGE!

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Spring Equinox 8 Phenomenal Rituals


This is a sacred day – the beginning of spring and when day and night; the light and dark are in equal balance.  Our ancestors were very connected with the mystical and powerful properties of the Equinox and Solstice (which occurs December 21). Our ancestors honoured these times with ceremony and celebration. It’s a time of new beginnings – and endings!  They are the ‘still times’, before the new season, the mid point of the year. The ‘in between’, the void, the unknown… the place where magic, mystery and miracles dwell.  You can tap into this power for your own life with the awareness of this potent gap in space and time.

“As above, so below.”  

To honour this time of rejuvenation, refreshment and rebirth; here are some tips to connect you with your true nature and purpose…

Honour The God And Goddess In A Sacred Ceremony

8.   Create an altar

It’s a great time to create an altar, get some flowers, incense, candles, sage and objects with special meaning and place them with intention.  It’s a great focus for meditation and a sacred place to go to when you need some time out.  If you already have an altar, you could freshen it up by adding fresh flowers, a crystal or something special.

Do so with intention… what do they represent?  Intentions?  Gratitude?  An honoring of your ancestors, or your love life, or your career or another area of your life?  Play with it. Visualize your life just as you would love it! Smile! Imaginatively step into the end result of what you would truly love!

7.   Breathe!

Take some time to really quiet the mind.  The easiest way to do this is to stop and take some slow, deep, conscious breaths.  This quiets the mind and connects you with your spirit.  A quiet mind can receive guidance, inspiration and ‘aha’ moments.

6.   Journal 

Create a sacred space and time to write down what you wish to manifest or create in the next 6 months, 1 year, 5 years, 10 years.  

What legacy would you like to leave the planet with?

When you look back at your life, what are the 5 things you have done, that you are most proud of?”

Treat your journal as your new best friend.  You know the phrase ‘better out than in’?  

Well, if your head is full of worries, jot them down in your journal.  It will clear your mind, and allow inspiration and guidance to come through.

5.   Clear your space

Space clearing, cleaning, clearing out clutter is a great way to say to the Universe “I am ready!  I’ve created new, clear, sacred space to allow what I love into my life.”

Psychologically you’re clearing house, and ensuring that you set up the conditions for more of what you love.  For more info on the power of this, just check out any feng shui websites or books. If there is a particular area of your life you would like more luck with, it will represent a corner of your home, so check it out, and clear that space. If you want to read more about this, I highly recommend this book – “The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing” by Marie Kondo. Her main message is to keep only things that bring you joy! I like that.

4.   Plant seeds!

There’s always something you can plant – at any time of the year.  Even if you don’t have seeds, tend to your garden, or sent an intention.  What would you like to grow?

Apart from honoring mother earth, and your creative abilities, planting seeds or ideas is a wonderful way to ground yourself.  When you are grounded, you can connect to divine inspiration and bring more of heaven to earth in your life.  Living in heaven on earth is the new paradigm… it is just about changing your perception and seeing the magic already in your life!  Then more, and more and more…

Also, simply putting your hands in clay, releases happy hormones (who knew)?!

3.   Greet the sunrise

Sunrise is a very sacred time of the day, especially at Equinox!

I ADORE Rumi; this is one of my favourite quotations written by him;

“The breezes at dawn have secrets to tell you
Don’t go back to sleep!
You must ask for what you really want.
Don’t go back to sleep!
People are going back and forth
across the doorsill where the two worlds touch,
The door is round and open
Don’t go back to sleep!”

I can honestly say, that in all the years that I got out of bed when I woke before sunrise, I’ve had the BEST day ever.  It really sets you up for the day.

2.   Gratitude

Write a list of things you are grateful for.

Every morning when you wake up, before anything… recite the things you are grateful for.

No matter how you are feeling it WILL make you feel better.  One of my favourite mentors used to say ‘Mood Is Everything’.  It is SO true… when you feel good, you magnetize more magic into your life.

Write a list of awesome things about you – and read them out to friend.  Get them to validate you, and add to your list.  Then swap.  If you feel like your confidence and self worth needs a boost, that’s a great thing to do!

1.   Hold A Ceremony

When nighttime and daytime are of equal duration, it reflects our male and female energies in balance… as light and dark are balanced in the world, so it is a great time to focus on balance in your life.

Whatever your ceremony involves, if you bring the quality of ‘sacredness’ to it, it will be perfect.  I also love to include FUN in my ceremonies.  After all, that’s why we are on planet earth!

Remember to honor your ancestors, spirit guides, power animals, angels, Ascended Masters, or whoever you seek guidance from.

Even better, if you have some sacred ceremonial grade chocolate you can have a ceremony with others, or on your own (more on how Chocolate is the vehicle for therapy, guidance, fun, spiritual enlightenment and so much more click here).  Take a dose and tune into your intention.  What would you like guidance on, what would you like to release (ideal for Southern Hemisphere/Autumn people), what would you like to create (ideal for Northern Hemisphere/Spring people).  Drink, and be guided.

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Elizabeth Gilbert – Gospel!


I just read a post on Facebook by the wonderful Elizabeth Gilbert, author of ‘Eat Pray Love’ which was also a film starring Julia Roberts, and most recently the fabulous ‘Big Magic’.

Her post was a call to women to simply love themselves – ALL of themselves.  This is totally my philosophy, and what I work with in sessions with clients – when you love whatever arises, you see the treasure in the tough times, and alchemise them into the next steps on your path to creating everything you love.

Having just spent some time totally confined to bed with the yukky ‘shingles’ – I’m slowly recovering as I integrate all the learnings and gifts I’ve received while ill.  I did A LOT of soul searching over the last few weeks and among the realisations was this gem.  It’s nothing new to me… but I got it, on a deeper, more profound, juicy level.  I am celebrating!

You must love yourself… is this a cliche now?

How do we love ourselves?

Well, here’s Elizabeth Gilbert’s post.  She poses a lot of questions, with a lot of gemstone answers!

I hope you enjoy it.

Credit Elizabeth Gilbert

“Dear Ones 

I’m worried about something. I’m worried about how much we hate ourselves.

When I say “we”, I mean modern people in the developed Western world, primarily. And among that population, it is the women who hate themselves most of all — who harm themselves, sabotage themselves, bully themselves, undermine themselves, and speak to themselves in voices of unthinkable cruelty.

Increasingly, I believe that the vast majority of our suffering is a result of this epidemic. And I am CERTAIN that everything you want for your life — everything you want to feel and believe and become — is on the other side of that dark river of self-hatred and self-abuse.

We have to stop this.

I won’t be talking today about the causes of our self-hatred. I don’t want to drift into the easy blame of “the media’s images of women”, or “the patriarchy”, or “the internet” or “the emotional disconnect of the post-industrial world” or even “our fucked up families.” Because you know what? I DON’T KNOW. I’m not smart enough to know what this is all about, or where the self-hatred comes from. I just know that it’s prevalent, it’s contagious, it’s really dangerous, and that we are destroying ourselves with it.

Sharon Salzberg, the great American meditation master, tells a story about meeting the Dalai Lama in 1990. She asked him what he thought about self-hatred, and he replied, “Self-hatred? What is that?”

Seriously. He didn’t know what she was talking about. He kept probing: How could people be taught to hate THEMSELVES?

The room was filled with Western meditators, scientists, pyschologists, and researchers, and over the next hours they tried to explain it to the Dalai Lama — tried to answer his puzzled question of how a person could be taught to hate themself. But he remained puzzled. He said, at the end of it all, “I thought I had a good acquaintance with the mind, but now I feel quite ignorant. I find this very, very strange.”

And heartbreaking.

Unlike the Dalai Lama, I know self-hatred inside and out, you guys. I know self-blame, shame, self-recrimination, and I have certainly experienced rage against my own machine. I know what it feels like to look at every molecule of your being (physical, emotional, intellectual, spiritual) and declare: NOT GOOD ENOUGH, KID. And I know that this way lies madness. Madness and pain, and the death of all good things.

I also know this — that the answer is not to become A BETTER PERSON. The answer is not to IMPROVE. The answer is not TO GET YOUR SHIT TOGETHER. And this is coming from somebody who loves improving, who loves striving, and who is always trying to get her shit together. Look, trying to improve yourself is FINE, if that’s what you’re into. Exercise more, eat better, become more productive, de-clutter your house — whatever. Getting your shit together is very nice. Do all that stuff, if you want to. (I certainly do all that stuff, and I don’t judge it.) But understand this — PEACE WILL NOT BE FOUND THERE. Your house can be so tidy that you could invite Marie Kondo over for dinner with pride, and maybe someday you can achieve rock-hard abs, and maybe someday you could get out debt, and land your dream job, finally stop drinking….and you might STILL hate yourself.

Because the darkness of self-hatred is immune to any worldly accomplishment or success. Achievement does not touch the part of yourself who abuses yourself. The world is filled with highly successful and accomplished people who treat themselves horribly, who talk to themselves savagely, and who abuse themselves terribly. If you could see inside their heads and witness the dreadful conversations going on in there, you would be shocked. You would be shocked, and maybe you would cry. And maybe you would want to take that highly successful and deeply troubled person in your arms and say, “There, there, little small one…there, there…hush, hush…”

Peace will only be found when you can love all the parts of yourself that you have always hated.

I used to think that self-love would only come to me when I had “cleaned up my act” — only when I had gotten rid of all my bad behaviors, only when I had mastered my mind, only when I had driven out all the negative thoughts, only when I had forgiven everyone for everything, only when I had made amends for every mess I had ever caused, only when I could see divinity in everybody, only when I never lost my temper, only when I no longer experienced “bad” emotions like anger, jealousy, resentment, self-pity. In other words, I could not love myself until I had become WORTHY.

Which means…what? Which means: I believed that I could not love myself until I was some kind of polished golden orb of perfection, with an immaculately-controlled mind, a healthy body, and a totally clean record. Someone who would never make another misstep, never speak another unkind word, never be a fuck-up again in any way whatsoever…ever. Then I could love myself.

But who is that? Who is that person I have just described?

That person is nobody. That person is no human being who has ever lived.

And once you realize that, then you realize that we are all this same boat together. That everything you hate about yourself is nothing less than your HUMANITY. Your shared humanity. That you and I, and your neighbor Bob, and your awful sister-in-law, and all those shiny people on Instagram…that we all share the same human dilemma — that we all don’t totally know how to BE, and what to do with ourselves. We all have these strange minds full of incomprehensible thoughts. We all have these untrustworthy hearts that often want forbidden things. We all have these funny ape-like bodies with weird urges. We all have these enormous souls filled with a desperate longing for belonging.

You are no different from me, and I am no different from your neighbor Bob, and your neighbor Bob is no different from your awful sister-in-law, and your awful sister-in-law is no different from all those shiny people on Instagram. There is a massive sense of tenderness that comes over me when I remember that we are all the same in our shared dilemma of how to be a person. We are all in this together. We are a bizarre but beautiful species. And if you believe that human beings need love, and deserve love…then you must someday grow into the belief that YOU also need love and deserve love, and that you must stop being so stingy about giving it to yourself.

You must not think that love is something you give to yourself as a reward, only if you have earned it — like some kind of gold star sticker that you get to put on your homework today if you are good…but maybe not tomorrow, if you fuck up.

No.

You have to give yourself love all the time.

Giving yourself love doesn’t mean that every day is spa day. (Although, hey. If you can swing it…) Giving yourself love doesn’t mean buying yourself fancy presents, or constantly treating yourself, or spoiling yourself. (You are not SEDUCING yourself, remember. You are not trying to get yourself in bed. You are just being kind and loving to yourself.) Giving yourself love doesn’t mean becoming Kanye-like in your insistence that you are the greatest.

You are not the greatest. But you are also not the WORST. And I bet there have been days of your life (maybe years of your life) where all you do is walk around telling yourself that you are the WORST. And I bet that nothing good has ever come out of that way of thinking.

You are not the greatest, and you are not the worst. You are just one of us.

Give the extreme LOVE experiment a go...

Give the extreme LOVE experiment a go…

I have tried a radical experiment recently. I call it: THE EXTREME LOVE EXPERIMENT.

Whenever I have a dark thought — a “forbidden” thought, like anger, jealousy, resentment, lust, shame, contempt — I immediately say to myself, “I love the part of you, Liz, who is full of anger right now.”

or: “I love the part of you who is ashamed of yourself right now.”

or: “I love the part of you who can’t stop judging yourself right now.”

or: “I love the part of you who feels weak and helpless right now.”

or: ‘I love the part of you who just had an explicitly violent fantasy about watching that person who is talking loudly on her cellphone suddenly have her head blow up.”

or: “I love the part of you who is still having an argument in your head with a man you haven’t talked to in 15 years.”

or: “I love the part of you who broke your New Year’s resolution on January 4th.”

or: “I love the part of you who believes that she is such a spiritual hypocrite, it’s ridiculous.”

or: “I love the vain/insecure part of you who stands in front of the mirror lifting up the dangly flesh on your neck and wondering if there’s some kind of plastic surgery for that.”

or: “I love the part of you who is jealous of that other novelist for winning that big award.”

I used to try to banish all those parts of myself. Because they were BAD. They were WRONG. They were UNEVOLVED. They were NEGATIVE.

But banishing the parts of myself that I hated has never worked. The more I try to banish them, the stronger they grow. The more I hated these parts of myself, the more they multiplied. It’s like my self-hatred was fertilizer — creating a dark, warm, nourishing environment for all those “bad” thoughts and impulses to grow…and as they grew, they destroyed me.

Now I just say to the dark thought, “I love this part of you”…and the dark thought loses its power.

I understand now that I am not a SELF. I am SELVES. I am thousands of different selves — and all of them are worthy of love.

To say, “I love you,” is the only force strong enough to diffuse darkness.

And here’s the crazy thing — this habit is starting to spread out of me, and I can now do it toward others.

For instance, I now have the capacity to think: “I love the part of my husband who is constantly interrupting me. This is just his weird humanity at play.”

Followed by: “And I love the part of me who gets so freaking irritated about how my husband is constantly interrupting me.”

Followed by: “I love the part of me who doesn’t really BELIEVE that I love the part of my husband who is constantly interrupting me.”

Followed by: “I love the part of me who is saying that this EXTREME LOVE EXPERIMENT is total bullshit, and it will never work.”

Followed by: “I love the part of me who wonders if I will ever truly love myself.”

And it goes on like that. But I go on, too. I just keep throwing love at everything that comes up…until finally it all gently quiets down.

And it does all finally gently quiet down.

I love all these dark parts of myself not because they are wonderful and adorable and perfect and fantastic, but because they are THERE. My dark bits are with me and they will likely always be with me. Just as your dark parts are with you and will likely always be with you. All that is there needs to be loved.

That’s OK.

As they say: “It’s not a bug; it’s a FEATURE.”

Our humanity is not an ERROR. Our crazy thoughts are not MISTAKES. Our scary longings and giant failures and ongoing disasters are not ABERRATIONS.

This is merely what it is to be a person — messy, weird, inconsistent, doubtful. This is how we ARE, and that has to be OK, or else nobody is OK.

We are not some early Dell Computer Operating System, here to be de-bugged. We are not some new product for sale, here to be perfected. The goal is not to become an immaculate golden orb. The goal is to return to a place of kindness, where you can be gentle with yourself and others, no matter what arises. This requires, I think, a friendly sort of loving humor about who you are and who we all are. Why does the Dalai Lama have such a twinkle about him? Because he gets it. He gets that it’s kind of funny, how we are. Even when it’s terrible. The whole thing is…very, very strange. And that’s OK. It’s strange, but it’s sacred.

And I believe there no is gentler or safer place to stand on this earth than in a place where you can say to yourself, “I love every bit of you, you beautiful freak.”

The Buddha said it better, of course. The Buddha said, “You can search the whole world over and never find anyone as deserving of love as yourself.”

In other words: Be good to you, OK?

Please put down the knife you have been holding to your own throat. You don’t deserve that kind of abuse, and it won’t help.

Just try it. Try saying to your scariest bits: “I love this part of you.”

And then say it again to the next part…and the next part…and the next part…and the next part…and ONWARD.

Good luck in there.

LG”

Again credited to Elizabeth Gilbert, author, and pretty amazing wise woman.

 

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Chocolate Ceremony For Clarity… 2


Yum yum yum… well I’m still in Ceremony, but I wanted to share my heart and the space I’m in.. . which is still ‘in between’.  I feel happier, I had a BIG ‘aha’ moment during which the fairy lights in my bedroom which have been on and off for a while, but off for at least a month or two started working again!  Lol.  It was metaphorical for the fact that WE can start working (being on a high vibration, lit up, bringing SUCH incredible JOY), with the simplest little adjustment and checking in.  That’s what happened with my lights, it was just ONE little bulb that had broken – there was actually not even any glass in it, so I took it out, and replaced it…da naaaa … bringing SUCH inredible joy, light and love….

Napoleon & I

Napoleon & I

I’m more in tune with my emotions, and I feel a heaviness, which translates as the emotion of sadness in my heart….
Still seeing where this is going.
Curious.
Being gentle.
Happy to have my adorable doggy companion Napoleon to be with me as the space holder today.

 

Love

Aloha x

 

 

 

Day Out Of Time 2015


Day out of time…. July 25, 2015

The ‘in between’ in the Mayan calendar.

A day of being… dreaming… gentleness…

The void, the unknown where potential lies… the space where magic, mystery and wonder dwell.

Take time to silence your mind…. breathe… become conscious.

I first became conscious of the ‘day out of time‘ in 2012 when I had a palpable sense that something very strange and magical was in the air.  All day long there was a potent-full, intense but gentle, full stop and a skip kinda energy in the air. I asked around and discovered it was the ‘day out of time’!!  I was blown away – I don’t usually feel that particular dates are important as time is simply made up anyway.  In hindsight though, I wonder if I felt its intensity because unbeknownst to me, a few months later I would follow my intuition and embark on a life-changing journey to the Mayan lands to meet a Chocolate Shaman (click here for more on that)!

Honour The God & Goddess Within

Honour The God & Goddess Within

Take time today to honour your journey and dream your future in …. that can all be done with just a few breaths.

I’m with the clan this weekend, by the sea, hoping the sunshine comes out tomorrow after an entire day of full on rain! Ready for sunnnny times and a private Cacao Ceremony to give gratitude and connect more and more to my bliss as I dream even some dreams I may not have even considered yet 😉
More about the “Day Out of Time” – Annually July 25th (from http://www.souledout.org/wecyclewisdom/node/493)

This is the last day of the galactic year in the Mayan and Galactic calendar.

(13 moons of 28 days = 364 days ~ the extra day, the 365th day, is July 25, the “Day Out Of Time”)

This is a special day for ritual, meditation and prayer.

In 2014 the Galactic New Year (July 26) is the second year in the 7-year cycle from 2013-2020 of Opening the Seven Light Gates.

This Day out of Time we open the Second Light Gate!

Yellow Galactic Star (7/25/14)

Spiritual quality of this Day Out of Time “Yellow Star’s star-seeded gift is the revelation of the harmony that unites all things.”

Red Solar Moon Year July 26, 2014 – July 25, 2015

“You are on the quest of self-remembrance, of Godseed … As you open to self-remembrance, you become a beacon and receiver for cosmic consciousness.”

The Feast Day of Saint Mary Magdalene


Jesus & Mary Magdalene

I feel raw today.  Like all the “stuff” I’ve cleared and felt over the last few years is coming up in a jingle of raw emotion to be felt and cleared again.  That’s A LOT of emotion!

 

I’ve been feeling so totally on top of the world, I held a ceremony on Saturday, and as facilitator, apart from the intention of serving the groups’ hearts and souls, I was curious about holding onto my light, high vibration.  The guidance I got was that the emotions come and go, nothing right, nothing wrong.  Back to ‘The Magic of Flow’.

Yesterday was the start of a day and a half with no plans, not seeing friends, no play, no sessions – just ME with myself.

 

Life has been a whirlwind of total bliss the last few weeks, since I stepped through a level of fear and journeyed from my gorgeous home, leaving my doggy, and embarking on what I thought would be a bit of a grim visit to London (cos I didn’t want to go).

In fact, my ego tried to prevent me from going with all sorts of stuff coming up including a physical pain so bad, I had to take a painkiller the day I flew (I have taken about 3 painkillers in the last 5/6 years – they are NOT a part of my life).  You see I know there’s always a message in illness, and it’s simply a disconnection from source.

However, I could not get an answer to why on earth I was getting this unbearable earache.  Once I took the painkiller and had a nap (great for the inner child), I woke up and had a loving chat with myself.  I woke without pain, and it was bliss.  What I realised was that I had created the pain, and it was a subtle, yet very uncomfortable form of self sabotage.

Now that I’ve been on my adventure for nearly three weeks, I can honestly say that I’ve had the best time ever!  I’ve created some wonderful Ceremonies, met new, amazing people, connected in deep ways, and not so deep ways with beautiful hearts and oh so, so much more!  I realise now, that my ego did not want me to follow my heart; the ego is simply about SURVIVAL.  It is not motivated to encourage you to be MAGNIFICENT, step up and follow your dreams.

 

So, today, as I sit with my vulnerability, and a dose of sadness, there’s a myriad of realisations coming to me.  This time last year, I was probably in one of the toughest times of my life emotionally, physically, spiritually, and mentally.  I’d been in a space of attracting ‘bullies’ into my life.  This was NOT something I was used to.  I was also in a space of being a ‘good person’, so when almost publicly humiliated I did not fight back.  I had no idea how to deal with it, but all that time I felt the presence of Saint Mary Magdalene with me and the message that kept coming to me was this:

No matter what people said about her (they called her a prostitute and a  sinner), she never defended herself – because if she had done, it would be sinking to lower levels of human bickering, judgement and chaos.  Doreen Virtue wrote about Saint Mary Magdalene, and she appears as one of the Goddesses in her wonderful Oracle Cards, she says; ‘The lower levels of human bickering, judgement and chaos are just that; lower levels.  I choose to do my work from the level of the higher consciousness, where love reigns supreme.  It’s here where the most good can be done, and I urge you to do the same.  Where you dwell in consciousness, is where you truly dwell.  So, focus your thoughts on the good things that you can find in people, and rise above all appearances otherwise……  Call upon her for forgiveness, and opening your heart to more love.”

What I learned, especially today, as I feel old feelings of sadness, and even some anger bubbling up, is that gentleness is the path.  We need to feel the whole gamut of emotions, the trick is not to get stuck there, as Joseph Campbell so eloquently said ‘Pain is inherent, suffering is optional.’

 

I have a sweet feeling of grace and gratitude in my heart, because guaranteed, at the other side of where I am today is more joy, love and bliss that I could have possibly felt before.  Even as I write about where I am, and sip my Sacred Cacao Elixir the feelings are transmuting into clarity on my dreams, and creations.  There is also a gentle power in my root chakra, which is coming up to allow me to step more and more into my power, and create the dreams I was ignoring.  When I ignored those dreams (especially last year), I attracted those with bullying energy into my life so I would awaken to the next stage of my power.

Feeling overawed, and full of joy for the gifts of clarity, love and peace – Happy feast day of Saint Mary Magdalene!

What I’ve learned today, is that The Magic of Flow is like waves, all emotions come and go, it’s as natural as the rhythm of the ocean.  Just remember, that at the other side of a feeling which might feel uncomfortable, are the feelings that you love… and they will be more juicy and powerful than you might have ever felt before.  That’s what you create, when you have the strength and power to allow it all.

 

If you feel a connection with Mary,  take a couple of minutes today to just sit and feel your heart.  There’s no ‘right way’ to do it, just simply sit and remember it.  When you hug a child, you don’t think ‘Am I doing it right?’  It’s the same with loving yourself, and honouring your heart, just take a couple of moments and breathe… and allow the smile in your heart to find you, and as it does feel the smile spread all over your body….. and the world.

 

 

Thank you to all my teachers, coaches, mentors, and especially those who came along to show me where I was afraid and not in my power as the Divine Creator Being I AM… and you are too!

Have you or do you feel a connection to Saint Mary Magdalene, please feel free to share.  I’d love to know more.

 

So much love,

Gerri

 

 

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