Stress Anxiety Depression…. 10 Steps To Relief
At this time of the year many can find themselves suffering from stress, depression and anxiety. Although it feels like they’re DOING lots, as they rush around, often they don’t feel very productive. With demands in many areas of their life, feeling like a hamster on a wheel they realise that when it is time to relax, it’s not so easy, with insomnia, or low quality sleep and when the holidays arrive they often end up ill!
The ramifications are that they don’t reach their potential on any level; mental, emotional, physical or spiritual…. but they DO suffer on many levels.
* A recent survey showed that heart disease is the No. 1 killer of women, and is actually more deadly than all forms of cancer combined.
* 40% of all work-related illnesses were caused by stress.
* The main causes of stress are:
* Job Pressure
* Poor Nutrition
* Sleep Deprivation
* Media Overload (which probably moves up the scale at times like this).
If you find those statistics shocking, beware you don’t hit the other end of the scale and choose to do nothing as this can make you more unhappy than anything!
It’s never too late to create a new life, to choose the life you love, the state of mind you would like to experience EVERY single day.
Deepak Chopra who bridges the worlds of allopathic and alternative health, in his wonderful book ‘Timeless Body, Ageless Mind’ says that the cells in our body are constantly regenerating so we actually have a new body every 7 years!
So why do some people continue to manifest the same illnesses? Their thoughts and feelings stay the same; negative, so the same illnesses manifest. This often happens down through generations of families as we learn the same way to cope – or not cope with stress!
There’s a strong connection with how we relate to the aging process, how we respond to the world, our minds, our emotions and spirituality… and ‘spirituality’ can be as simple as taking a deep, conscious breath…
There are some really easy, quick, wonderful ways to allow you to stop and smell the coffee… and unfortunately one of them isn’t drinking coffee (unless you drink it in moderation, and treat it as a sacred act – my personal tip :).
Here are the 10 Steps To Relief, and a Life of Flow, Joy, Fun & More…
10. Create A ‘Ta Da’ List
Rather than a ‘to do’ list, this is a list of the things you’d like to accomplish in a time period, and focus on how you’d love your life, year, week, or day to be.
Start with a three year period, then two years, one year, 6 months, 3 months, 1 month, 1 week ….. Then focus on each day, then work in 3 hour periods and really FOCUS on an end result you’d like to accomplish…. IGNORE anything else. This is a facebook, telephone, text FREE zone 🙂 Ensure you tick things off as you achieve them, psychologically this is a very powerful thing to do, then happily say ‘ta da’, as you achieve another thing on the list 😉
9. Pamper Yourself
There are so many wonderful therapies available which address the mind body and spirit including Shiatsu, Reiki, Reflexology, Aromatherapy Massages and float tanks. If you can do this weekly, I highly recommend it, but at least monthly.
Simply having the appointment in your calendar will feel sooo good. Make sure to take some time out for YOU afterwards as you’ll be in a super high state of consciousness. Journal, write or just BE and enjoy nature. Find a good, registered practitioner through recommendation or word of mouth.
8. Meditate & Breathe Deeply
If you think you haven’t got time to meditate, simply …. Breathe! It’s as simple as that!
There’s so many benefits to meditation, but if you are a buzzy bee, then let me tell you that ‘time management’ has got nothing to do with the solution, time doesn’t exist so how can you manage it? What needs to be managed is YOU, and your energy. After meditation, and connecting with your soul and higher self, this is sooo much easier.
Just take a moment and focus on your breath from time to time.
“If you can’t afford to meditate for 20’ a day, then do it for 40”
Said the Zen Buddhist monk to the buzzy student
Taking 40 deep breaths a day is a wonderful way to slow things down, gain clarity, and give the mind a rest.
This allows inspiration to pop into your head. Have you ever experienced that magic, when you’ve been ‘trying’ to work something out, or remember something, or wait for a creative idea to manifest, as soon as you stop trying it happens! Even for the buzziest person you can take those breaths while on the train, the loo, or in a meeting.
Another great breathing exercise is to take a couple of 7/11 breaths, or 4/5. Breathe in for the count of 7 (or 4), hold for a few seconds, then breathe out for the count of 11 (or 5). Do this a few times, and notice how differently you are experiencing the world.
You see it’s impossible to think and breathe deeply at the same time… so you’re allowing divine inspiration and ‘aha’ moments to arise in between the thoughts.
Breathing deeply slows down the heart, which in turn slows down the mind.
It’s great for digestion too, as the deep breathing actually massages your digestive organs.
” If people only knew…the divine POWER of their thoughts!
First thing when I wake up is to think of the love, the people and “things” I have to be grateful for.
I pray for them all.
I DECIDE to be happy.
I don’t even get up unless I have a smile on my face.
I laugh a lot – especially when things aren’t necessarily going my way, because they are illusions that wont last longer than one breath unless I LET it.
When we learn to love ourselves, first, everything changes. Because we love ourselves, we decide to be happy every morning when we wake up, because it just seems like the best choice for remaining positive all day.
It makes us glow and people will remark about it often.
Everyone wants to know why I’m so happy all the time and I say, “Because I want to be.” Is there a better reason?
You see, it all has to do with Divine Intent.
If I have divine intent, then ALL my relationships are divine. They are truth based. I bring happiness with me, it is not a burden I place on the shoulders of loved ones.
You are not responsible for my happiness – I am.
It IS a discipline, something to practice every day until it becomes normal habit.
Unless you are a fortunate one born with the “happy gene”.
It is really not as complicated as we can make it.” Ashleigh Grace Walkinshaw
7. Create A Morning Ritual
I highly recommend a three part morning ritual which totally changed my life and moved me from a place of total despair, to really taking my life by the wotsits and creating a beautiful, successful, dream come true life.….
It goes like this… If you possibly can, get up when you wake up, if it’s humanly possible, this may take working up to, but the main three points are as follows:
i. Drink half a litre of water on waking.
Your body is dehydrated, so this is a great way to start the day.
ii. Exercise for 30 mins, anything that increases your heart rate.
I usually take the dog for a walk, and do a few mins of yoga afterwards, followed by meditation or ‘tuning in’ (feel free to ask if you’d like more info on this). Regular exercise shifts our mental, emotional, physical and spiritual bodies so that we are operating more to our highest potential AND it gives you the sense that there’s more hours in the day! It seems counter intuitive that we’d have more energy if we exercised in the morning, but it is a fact.
iii. Have a healthy, nourishing breakfast.
I favour a smoothie with lots of magic ingredients, in season fruit, along with a selection of cacao, spirulina, maca, hemp seeds (ground up) and whatever else takes my fancy. Sometimes I add ‘Tree of Life’ (also known as moringa), echinacea, and whatever else takes my fancy. I follow my intuition as to what my body needs, and it’s a great way to start the day creating a divine beverage.
If you can do these three things every morning, then your life WILL change.
It takes 30 days to make a habit, permanent, after day two you will probably experience resistance/excuses as to why you can’t do it, but I promise, if you stick to it, you WILL be clearly on the path to creating the life you love. I usually allow myself one day off a week and I actually really feel the difference on that day, but it also feels good to have a lie in for a change.
6. Go To Bed When You’re Tired
Insomnia and sleeping disorders are often caused because the body is pushed BEYOND the point of being tired, so adrenaline kicks in and an unnatural surge of energy drives the body so that when bedtime comes, it’s impossible to sleep.
When you’re tired, go to bed, and avoid screens (tv, computer, phone) for 1-2 hours beforehand if you can. On average we sleep much, much longer than necessary. I think it’s good to sleep when you need to, and I really encourage napping, but it’s a fallacy that we need 8 hours sleep a night. According to many surveys that the Sleep Institute in California have run, apparently we live longer AND we’re healthier when we sleep for 6-7 hours. Geniuses generally slept for 3-4 hours, so if you are waking up at ungodly, or goddessly hours, use the time, be creative! Many are downloading new light, information and codes as we shift dimensionally and vibrationally, so sleep patterns are changing – just be gentle with yourself. If you’re exercising, and sleeping enough you’re pretty much onto a winner!
5. Eat Slowly
Focus on good masturcation. If you suffer from bad digestion, IBS or any digestive disorders, then consider a new way of dining.
Throw away the computers, magazines and television while you eat…. okay not literally, but really, switch them off, put the book or newspaper or even radio away.
Sit down at a table, RELAX, eat slowly, chewing every bite, and consciously LOVING the food.
Then when you’ve finished, and this is v v v important, remember to relax for at least a few minutes as your body is still digesting.
This gives your body the chance to get the goodness from your food.
In Traditional Chinese Medicine terms, the spleen has the job of digesting the food. Its other job is concentrating, thinking and focussing. So, if you’re busy reading, watching tv etc. then your spleen is overworked as it’s trying to do two jobs at once (ie. thinking/focussing and digesting… both separating good from not good).
When I worked as a Practitioner in the NHS and Harley Street, I had a lot of stressed clients with digestive disorders. Once they were aware of this, and changed their dining habits, their symptoms disappeared AND they enjoyed their mealtimes more too!
You could also light a candle, and add a bit of romance to your dining experience… even if it’s just you!
4. Drink Water
Drink between 1.5 and 2 litres of water per day.
Dehydration is actually the most common cause of headaches, lethargy and tiredness.
Often when you THINK you’re hungry, you’re actually thirsty. Keep a bottle on your desk, and drink, drink, drink!
3. Become AWARE
Awareness is a very rare state, usually it’s only gained when we have a shock or a NDE (near death experience). When we experience ‘Awareness’, through an accident, or a shock, we have the realisation that life is really too short, and immediately we want to call those we love and let them know how much we value them. It also allows us to get clear on what’s important in our life. It is a beautiful state where we can stop and assess our lives, and get clear on what’s important.
It is a state that we can choose, sometimes after meditation or a pampering treatment, we might be in a higher state of consciousness which allows for awareness.
If I’m ever feeling stressed or rushed, I sit down and breathe. Then I write down what it is exactly that would make me happy and what I’m grateful for. It’s a miraculously powerful consciousness changer.
2. Choose ‘Being Healthy’ As Your Main Focus
Your soul, your intuition knows what to do to be healthy. When your focus is on avoiding illness, or being fat, or whatever, your focus is STILL on what you don’t want to create.
Rather than focussing on … “I want to avoid being ill”, or “I won’t eat (… Fill in the blank…) because it causes (… Fill in the blank…), instead, focus on what you WOULD love. LOVE the food you eat, even if you’re tempted to have a McDonalds – have it without guilt.
The job of the subconscious is to simply create where our focus is, consciously, or subconsciously. Focus on the higher.
Many people who have had NDEs got clarity on this, how they spent their entire lives living in FEAR – avoiding things! Anita Moorjani, in her book ‘Dying To Be Me’ saw that all her life her focus was on AVOIDING illness, yet she got ill. So everything she did was fear-motivated, causing unhappiness, illness and a miserable life.
1. Be Realistic! Dream BIG….
Stay busy, but set goals. If you’re not in a job you love, then do something about it. Find a mentor or someone to guide you to discovering your strengths, talents and gifts.
Why not challenge yourself but make sure you have plenty of time so you feel in control of the situation. This is how games feel. Games are fun! Especially ones based on imagination and fun!
If there’s a hobby or a pastime you’d love to start, then take the first steps, make a phone call, google it.
ENJOY YOUR LIFE… and please share this with your friends.