Happy New Year! 2017
Step into that new year with a sparkly sashay and smile 😉
Here’s a little message a suggestion on how you can create your bestest year so far.
It’s a three part process that can take anything from 10 seconds to an hour if you want to devote that time to it. It’s a great way to close the year, and move into a new year, refreshed, renewed and READY for the best so far.
The way you CREATE is focus… focussing on what you DO want… so this will assist you in getting clarity, and letting go of what you do NOT want to focus on 😉
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Anxiety & Panic Attacks; 3 Tips For Happiness & Success
Do you ever suffer with anxiety or panic attacks? I share the Top 3 Tips For Anxiety and Panic… and why there’s a MASSIVE gift waiting for you. Often, the thing we fear most is the thing our heart yearns for more than we can imagine…
It’s early morning, the sun is breaking through the top of the mountain range out of my window and I was instantly called to write this piece as I got a sense of panic in my heart. My heart rate increased and that’s it…. luckily I was able to stop it there.
There was a time when I would go straight into a panic attack, followed by depression, and worse. My mind would come up with all sorts of reasons why it was happening which would only exacerbate the situation. Before I knew it, I’d be off, creating some crazy, dramatic scenario of doom in my life with the crazy monkey mind in control. Often, I wouldn’t even realise my heart was beating fast, and the thoughts had control until it was too late. It was an automatic reaction, starting with a thought, a feeling and then transitioning in warp speed time to the feeling of impending doom, and fear for survival.
Definition of Anxiety
The Oxford English Dictionary definition of ‘anxiety‘ is:
A feeling of worry, nervousness, or unease about something with an uncertain outcome.
A Strong desire or concern to do something or for something to happen.
In my opinion, it is an unbearable feeling. It is usually totally out of proportion with the thought, or situation that triggered it, and it makes you feel like you’re going to die! It’s very often linked with depression, which is at the far end of the spectrum to it, a slower vibration, but the feeling can be just as soul destroying. The good news is that it’s just your body giving you a signal; read on….
What To Do?
If you experience any of these symptoms, the short term solutions are:
- Acknowledge it. Don’t fight it. Admit to yourself what is happening… “It is just a panic attack/anxiety, I am not going to die”. Notice that it is just a physical reaction.
- Breathe! When you acknowledge, rather than fight the attack, and the feelings that come with it, you step into your power. You become CONSCIOUS.
- Get Physical. Get clarity on what coping mechanisms work for you. Feel your feet planted on the ground. Shake your hands, run on the spot, or dance! There are some great aromatherapy oils, and rescue remedies (get recommendations from your local health food store) that can give immediate relief. Having clarity on what triggers you so that you have them handy at all times – whether needed or not is great for peace of mind.
“The only difference between fear and excitement, is the breath.”
Anxiety and depression are two of the the most common illnesses worldwide. In the US alone, they cost about $40 billion per year!
Remember to stop and smell the flowers….
“A ship in port is safe, but that’s not what ships are built for.”
How To Prevent It?
Long term, many would recommend seeing a healthcare professional (and I guess, as a professional I have to recommend that), but there are other ways to deal with it.
I have worked with a lot of women who suffered from anxiety for many years, and they have transformed into wildly successful businesswomen. Their big dreams are manifesting, and many more are STILL coming true. Their relationships have improved, their self esteem has grown… The anxiety was a BIG prompt for them to change their life… so they could receive more of its magnificence.
Many of these women had been living a life of compromise, they had money worries, they were not happy with their relationships or health – in short and they were unhappy, miserable, and some had almost given up on life….
More often than not, somewhere, deep down, hidden in their heart was a dream. A big dream that simply wouldn’t go away…. no matter how much they tried to squash it back down, and no matter how many years they gained behind them…..
Instead, it bubbled up with all sorts of ailments, unhappiness, and manifested in anxiety and depression. It was a dream that they thought was impossible… Some days they would hide under the duvet, too full of misery, and hatred for themselves… for not taking that big leap. Other days it manifested as anxiety or depression. They simply couldn’t bring themselves to go out the front door…. it was insidious, it crept up like a cold wind bringing fear, and tales of a life half lived. More often than not, they were not even conscious of what was happening… they just drowned in a life half-lived, with a vague smile on their face…. but sadness in their heart and misery in their being. If any of this resonates, remember you CAN manifest your dream and …
You do not need ‘fixing’.
You do not need healing.
You do not need to analyse the situation or yourself.
You do not need to control it.
You do not need to judge it, or judge yourself for having it.
In the moment, you simply need to do NOTHING… nothing which involves FEELING it. It might seem super scary, but there’s a powerful system I use with my clients which allows them to easily, effortlessly, feel and heal whatever is going on with them. Unless you actually FEEL it, it will keep coming up, triggered by anything and everything until you go INTO the feeling.
In that feeling, there is a POWERFUL message!
I have a message for you too – I am here to tell you – YOU ARE GOOD ENOUGH!
You CAN manifest that dream. You are not here to work all the days of your life in a gray office. Whatever your dream is, you CAN manifest it. We are not given dreams and desires, without the ability to manifest them. You ARE here to do work you love, to have a fantastic relationship, to write your book, whatever YOUR dream is. So, throw off the bowlines, push away from the shore and start taking action on manifesting your dream! If you don’t know where to start, contact me and we can have a chat and set up a plan of action… guided by the heart, taking the head along on the journey.
You are here to leave a legacy, you are here to step OUT of your comfort zone (which is really a discomfort zone), there is MUCH more comfort when you are out in the world, shining as you were born to do. Creating what you came here to create!
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“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do.
So throw off the bowlines.
Sail away from the safe harbour.
Catch the trade winds in your sails.
Explore. Dream. Discover.”
Extra Tip – Acupressure
If you get that anxious feeling, there’s a great acupressure point called “Heart 7” – which is also great for insomnia. Hold it for a few seconds, and your heart will calm down, and your mind will relax.
Click here for information on how to locate it, or simply hold out a hand with the palm up, then with the thumb of the other hand, follow the dip between the bones of the ring and little fingers, up to the wrist crease… you will find a dip, this is Heart 7. Hold it gently, while breathing deeply and relax and enjoy. Some acupressure points are contraindicated if you are pregnant, but this one is okay.
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1010 Number Sequences Signs Symbols….
Symbols of different kinds are a way for the ‘unusual’ mystical, magical realms to connect with us.
I have seen 1010 LOTS today. I see repetitive numbers a lot, in fact I’m writing a series of blogs on the symbolism behind a wide range of numbers. Seeing repetitive numbers is one of my favourite ways to remember to pause. Breathe. Step out of my busy mind, my chattering thoughts and remember that I’m living in a magical world.
Other symbols with meaning are feathers, birds, animals, hearing the lyrics of a song that have special meanings. When we’re attuned to these things, our consciousness feeds us these little tidbits of magic to keep us happy on our path, and to give us guidance. I often see releavant numbers if I’m worried about somethign, or there’s a particular reminder I need.
What does 1010 mean?
It reminds us of the importance of LOVE… we’re made of love, it’s all about love (more below). Above all else, love YOU! The most important person on the planet… to you.
It is a BIG reminder that in essence, you are love, and you are here to experience love.
Loving what arises, loving ourselves, taking the path from the head, to the heart and living from there… following your heart (but taking the head along too).
Even if you’re having challenges in your business, just LOVE it. I think that one of the toughest paths to enlightenment is the path of the entrepreneur! You are really faced with your beliefs, and (perceived) limitations on a daily basis… and you MUST move on through them. That’s why I love these little signs from the Universe (for want of a better word) showing us whether we’re on the right path, and inspiring us with the messages.
As always thanks to Doreen Virtue, Crystalinks.com and Drunvalo Melchizidech for their inspirations on the meanings of numbers.
10:10 – Moving into a new beginning 1 (one) – and moving into the pattern of the Great Void 0 (or zero).
10:10 is the Alpha-Omega number. The number of beginnings and endings, it a new beginning, can coming full circle (1, then 0, repeated). It is full of promise, and it is the beginning of the opening of the “Compassionate Heart.”
I’d love to hear from you – what does this number represent for you?
Have you seen it a lot?
What are your favourite recurring numbers, and why?
Sharing Is Caring – links just below to share with your contacts…..
222 2222 New Beginnings…
What does it mean when you see the number 2 repeated?
Synchronicity and messages come through in many ways, especially repeated numbers. You might see it as the date, or on clocks, the time, car registration numbers, telephone numbers, receipts, change or the total on your receipt.
So what does 222 mean?
Well, it’s a very good sign. The new moon is closely linked with the number 2, when you see repetitive 2 it is a sign of NEW BEGINNINGS… It is saying – keep going, do not to give up, be patient. Your seed is just below the soil, ready to sprout into a beautiful flower (or your creation). Just because you can’t see anything, it doesn’t mean it’s not developing. More on the stages of creation and manifestation below.
222 or other groups of ‘2’ are reminding you to stay positive… don’t lose hope just before your seed shoots through the soil, to the light of day and full manifestation.
Celebrate your humanness, your dreams are coming true, keep going and…..
It is a reminder to take it easy! You ARE on the way to manifesting your dreams.. You just need to ‘do the work’ every single day, every single nano second – and know that even on the most miserable days, your manifestations ARE coming through…. like seeds, sprouting, slowing reaching the light of day… If you give up just before the seed bursts through the soil you miss the manifestation.
In terms of creating and manifesting our dreams, we can describe it in the following steps:
A Dream, New Vision or Realisation
You have a dream… you meet a teacher or a mentor who shows you another way – your “Soul’s Path”.
You have a glimpse of another possibility, another life choice. It could be a new business, relationship, health choice and so on.
You get super excited as it seems SO real, believable and possible.
This is your “Call To Adventure” as Joseph Campbell describes it in his book “The Hero’s Journey“. You meet a teacher or a guide, and you commit to your dream or vision. This is the path of the heart.
By accepting the call, and remaining excited, following the breadcrumb trail of joy – you eventually manifest your dreams. It helps to be trained in tapping into your intuition in an accurate, tangible way. Then you totally know if you are being motivated by fear… or love (the heart/imagination/intuition).
Doubt, Challenge & Testing
In the second stage of the journey, doubt, challenges and tests arise… You’ve got clarity on your dream, and the vision you would like to manifest, but then the mind takes over….. FEAR!
The job of the mind (or ego) is to protect you. Its sole job is your survival…. literally! This was necessary back in the days of cave dwelling, but nowadays the mind can go into overdrive and actually take you AWAY from your heart’s path, and your dreams (it thinks it’s protecting you).
The ego sees you are about to do something new… and it fears for your safety and survival (if you keep doing what you’ve been doing, it’s quite happy – even if is not good for you… because you have not died… literally, its job is to keep you alive – it’s that simple – and crazy).
When you think about following your heart it freaks out!
In this stage, the ego has been alerted to the fact that you might be taking the path of the heart and it sees that as scary… it’s got its ‘alert!’ hat on 🙂
Whatever area you are thinking about changing, different scenarios might come up…
If you consider leaving the ‘known’, worries arise – you’ve trained long and hard at your job – to be a lawyer, a teacher, a television producer (my past career) or whatever the job you are considering leaving that simply isn’t bringing you joy – so fear comes up and you think you can’t give it up. You doubt whether your new venture will be a success… ‘Maybe doing fabulous, enjoyable work is for others, the dreamers, not me….’ you think.
You don’t think you can leave your marriage because of that bit of paper and those promises you made a looooong time ago. You worry about what others will think and say. You think maybe you should compromise.
Any time ‘222’ pops up, you’re being told to look for the magic, the magic is within you, and this is a sign that you are on the right path… get excited and stay with the excitement. Be patient.
You don’t think you can manifest your dream home, or move and live somewhere else and all sorts of worries come up. The dreaded word ‘HOW’ bugs you as you ‘try’ to work out the entire journey from where you are to your manifested dream.
I actually suggest that my clients refrain from using the word ‘how’ as it catapults them firmly into the left, logical brain. Nothing wrong with the left brain, but it is limited to what you have learned and experienced, whereas the right brain is unlimited… It is the sphere of the imagination, intuition, synchronicity, magic, and love. You need both sides of your brain to manifest successfully. :)…
Whatever your story, whatever your dream there is something that needs to be released, and something that you need to commit to…. if you are to live a fantastic life, rather than a life of compromise, fear, loneliness… whatever your favourite ego flavour is ….
“The imagination is the preview of life’s coming attractions.”
“Imagination is more powerful than knowledge.”
So this is the stage where we doubt ourselves… many give up here … this is why so many equate dreams, desires, visions with pain and suffering.
Many give up for many years, or forever. We’re not taught to ‘break out of the system’ so to speak…
This is the stage of testing… are you committed to your dream … or not?
Anything that comes up and doubts your stage one (your vision), is stage two…
This stage is also a sort of ‘safety light switch’. You are being asked –
Are you sure you want to leave your job?
Are you sure you want to leave your relationship?
Are you sure you want to change your vibration and your life…
If you say YES you reach…..
Manifestation & Realisation That You Are A DMB (Divine Magnificent Being)
You manifest your dream!
It is time for CELEBRATION & COMPLETION!
Remember you’re a God, Goddess, divine magnificent being, spirit having a human experience… If you have a desire you CAN manifest it…. it is law! We are never given a dream, or a desire that is impossible to manifest.
In this stage, you begin to manifest more and more and more of what you love.
You start to FEEL the vibration of having manifested your dream. You let go… and before you know, you’ve either manifested it, or you realise you’ve manifested something even better. Often, when you are focussed on the ‘big’ dream, you look around and realise you have manifested something you wished for a very long time ago. When you take your mind (and fear) off it, you allow it to come into your life. A type of surrender… of the most powerful kind. That’s what ‘being in your power’ means – it is having a dream, and taking action to manifest it. You ‘do the work’. When you rise to the vibration – the feeling of having what you love… it comes rushing into your life…. 222 You need to keep your vibe high though! To discover how to do this, feel free to ask me…. or remind me to write another blog on this.
So the numbers 2, or repeated 2’s are saying don’t give up! It’s a message from your guides, whoever/wherever you seek your guidance from. It is spirit – your higher self, the angels, your ancestors – when they get your attention with repetitive numbers, it’s their way of communicating with you. You CAN do it! You are WELL CAPABLE. You are GOOD ENOUGH, YOU ARE LOVABLE and YOU ARE WORTHY!
You only want what you want, because in the having of it, you think you will feel better.. so feel good anyway!
So keep going, keep dreaming, spend more time in the dreams, imagining, playing than you do in your ‘stuff’ (negative beliefs, thoughts, feelings) and it WILL happen…. it is law!
Do you see 222 – or other numbers a lot?
What numbers have a special significance for you?
How do you get ‘YES’ signs from the Universe/angels etc.?
I’d love to hear your comments and whether this resonates, comment below.
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One of my favourite ways to connect to my higher self, super conscious, wise one is through signs and symbols that come to me. I often see numbers and they each have a specific meaning… here is what 999 means to me.
It is your time, you are a Lightworker – get to work. No more procrastination, you have seen the signs, now go DO IT! You WILL be a success! My ‘definition’ of a lightworker is someone who is keen to make this world a better place! I actually prefer the word ‘lightplayer’.
Completion – This is the end of a big phase in your personal or global life. Also, it is a message to lightworkers involved in Earth healing and means, “Get to work because Mother Earth needs you right now.”
Holistic healing, wholeness, body as temple of Spirit, ultimate regeneration, resurrection, immortality, illumination, Divine communion, cosmic love, pure awareness, ego annihilation, Agape Love, Enlightenment.
999 (or similar 9999) This is a “Master Number”. When you see this number often there is a profound lesson or situation occurring that is bringing very important lessons for your soul’s accelerated growth. It can also be a sign from the heavens that you have completed a period of growth, you have “Mastered” so to speak. It is common during this time to end jobs, relationships and friendships that no longer serve your higher expression. However, the closing of one door always opens a new one and new experiences will flow in that resonate with who you are now or who you are becoming.
Thank you to inspiration from Doreen Virtue, Drunvalo Melchizediech, Joanna Sacred of Scribes.
Happy 999 and other sightings!
What numbers do you see often?
Do any particular numbers have specific meaning for you?
What’s your favourite number and why?
Comment below, and please share this blog with your friends!
I just read a post on Facebook by the wonderful Elizabeth Gilbert, author of ‘Eat Pray Love’ which was also a film starring Julia Roberts, and most recently the fabulous ‘Big Magic’.
Her post was a call to women to simply love themselves – ALL of themselves. This is totally my philosophy, and what I work with in sessions with clients – when you love whatever arises, you see the treasure in the tough times, and alchemise them into the next steps on your path to creating everything you love.
Having just spent some time totally confined to bed with the yukky ‘shingles’ – I’m slowly recovering as I integrate all the learnings and gifts I’ve received while ill. I did A LOT of soul searching over the last few weeks and among the realisations was this gem. It’s nothing new to me… but I got it, on a deeper, more profound, juicy level. I am celebrating!
You must love yourself… is this a cliche now?
How do we love ourselves?
Well, here’s Elizabeth Gilbert’s post. She poses a lot of questions, with a lot of gemstone answers!
I hope you enjoy it.
Credit Elizabeth Gilbert
I’m worried about something. I’m worried about how much we hate ourselves.
When I say “we”, I mean modern people in the developed Western world, primarily. And among that population, it is the women who hate themselves most of all — who harm themselves, sabotage themselves, bully themselves, undermine themselves, and speak to themselves in voices of unthinkable cruelty.
Increasingly, I believe that the vast majority of our suffering is a result of this epidemic. And I am CERTAIN that everything you want for your life — everything you want to feel and believe and become — is on the other side of that dark river of self-hatred and self-abuse.
We have to stop this.
I won’t be talking today about the causes of our self-hatred. I don’t want to drift into the easy blame of “the media’s images of women”, or “the patriarchy”, or “the internet” or “the emotional disconnect of the post-industrial world” or even “our fucked up families.” Because you know what? I DON’T KNOW. I’m not smart enough to know what this is all about, or where the self-hatred comes from. I just know that it’s prevalent, it’s contagious, it’s really dangerous, and that we are destroying ourselves with it.
Sharon Salzberg, the great American meditation master, tells a story about meeting the Dalai Lama in 1990. She asked him what he thought about self-hatred, and he replied, “Self-hatred? What is that?”
Seriously. He didn’t know what she was talking about. He kept probing: How could people be taught to hate THEMSELVES?
The room was filled with Western meditators, scientists, pyschologists, and researchers, and over the next hours they tried to explain it to the Dalai Lama — tried to answer his puzzled question of how a person could be taught to hate themself. But he remained puzzled. He said, at the end of it all, “I thought I had a good acquaintance with the mind, but now I feel quite ignorant. I find this very, very strange.”
Unlike the Dalai Lama, I know self-hatred inside and out, you guys. I know self-blame, shame, self-recrimination, and I have certainly experienced rage against my own machine. I know what it feels like to look at every molecule of your being (physical, emotional, intellectual, spiritual) and declare: NOT GOOD ENOUGH, KID. And I know that this way lies madness. Madness and pain, and the death of all good things.
I also know this — that the answer is not to become A BETTER PERSON. The answer is not to IMPROVE. The answer is not TO GET YOUR SHIT TOGETHER. And this is coming from somebody who loves improving, who loves striving, and who is always trying to get her shit together. Look, trying to improve yourself is FINE, if that’s what you’re into. Exercise more, eat better, become more productive, de-clutter your house — whatever. Getting your shit together is very nice. Do all that stuff, if you want to. (I certainly do all that stuff, and I don’t judge it.) But understand this — PEACE WILL NOT BE FOUND THERE. Your house can be so tidy that you could invite Marie Kondo over for dinner with pride, and maybe someday you can achieve rock-hard abs, and maybe someday you could get out debt, and land your dream job, finally stop drinking….and you might STILL hate yourself.
Because the darkness of self-hatred is immune to any worldly accomplishment or success. Achievement does not touch the part of yourself who abuses yourself. The world is filled with highly successful and accomplished people who treat themselves horribly, who talk to themselves savagely, and who abuse themselves terribly. If you could see inside their heads and witness the dreadful conversations going on in there, you would be shocked. You would be shocked, and maybe you would cry. And maybe you would want to take that highly successful and deeply troubled person in your arms and say, “There, there, little small one…there, there…hush, hush…”
Peace will only be found when you can love all the parts of yourself that you have always hated.
I used to think that self-love would only come to me when I had “cleaned up my act” — only when I had gotten rid of all my bad behaviors, only when I had mastered my mind, only when I had driven out all the negative thoughts, only when I had forgiven everyone for everything, only when I had made amends for every mess I had ever caused, only when I could see divinity in everybody, only when I never lost my temper, only when I no longer experienced “bad” emotions like anger, jealousy, resentment, self-pity. In other words, I could not love myself until I had become WORTHY.
Which means…what? Which means: I believed that I could not love myself until I was some kind of polished golden orb of perfection, with an immaculately-controlled mind, a healthy body, and a totally clean record. Someone who would never make another misstep, never speak another unkind word, never be a fuck-up again in any way whatsoever…ever. Then I could love myself.
But who is that? Who is that person I have just described?
That person is nobody. That person is no human being who has ever lived.
And once you realize that, then you realize that we are all this same boat together. That everything you hate about yourself is nothing less than your HUMANITY. Your shared humanity. That you and I, and your neighbor Bob, and your awful sister-in-law, and all those shiny people on Instagram…that we all share the same human dilemma — that we all don’t totally know how to BE, and what to do with ourselves. We all have these strange minds full of incomprehensible thoughts. We all have these untrustworthy hearts that often want forbidden things. We all have these funny ape-like bodies with weird urges. We all have these enormous souls filled with a desperate longing for belonging.
You are no different from me, and I am no different from your neighbor Bob, and your neighbor Bob is no different from your awful sister-in-law, and your awful sister-in-law is no different from all those shiny people on Instagram. There is a massive sense of tenderness that comes over me when I remember that we are all the same in our shared dilemma of how to be a person. We are all in this together. We are a bizarre but beautiful species. And if you believe that human beings need love, and deserve love…then you must someday grow into the belief that YOU also need love and deserve love, and that you must stop being so stingy about giving it to yourself.
You must not think that love is something you give to yourself as a reward, only if you have earned it — like some kind of gold star sticker that you get to put on your homework today if you are good…but maybe not tomorrow, if you fuck up.
You have to give yourself love all the time.
Giving yourself love doesn’t mean that every day is spa day. (Although, hey. If you can swing it…) Giving yourself love doesn’t mean buying yourself fancy presents, or constantly treating yourself, or spoiling yourself. (You are not SEDUCING yourself, remember. You are not trying to get yourself in bed. You are just being kind and loving to yourself.) Giving yourself love doesn’t mean becoming Kanye-like in your insistence that you are the greatest.
You are not the greatest. But you are also not the WORST. And I bet there have been days of your life (maybe years of your life) where all you do is walk around telling yourself that you are the WORST. And I bet that nothing good has ever come out of that way of thinking.
You are not the greatest, and you are not the worst. You are just one of us.
I have tried a radical experiment recently. I call it: THE EXTREME LOVE EXPERIMENT.
Whenever I have a dark thought — a “forbidden” thought, like anger, jealousy, resentment, lust, shame, contempt — I immediately say to myself, “I love the part of you, Liz, who is full of anger right now.”
or: “I love the part of you who is ashamed of yourself right now.”
or: “I love the part of you who can’t stop judging yourself right now.”
or: “I love the part of you who feels weak and helpless right now.”
or: ‘I love the part of you who just had an explicitly violent fantasy about watching that person who is talking loudly on her cellphone suddenly have her head blow up.”
or: “I love the part of you who is still having an argument in your head with a man you haven’t talked to in 15 years.”
or: “I love the part of you who broke your New Year’s resolution on January 4th.”
or: “I love the part of you who believes that she is such a spiritual hypocrite, it’s ridiculous.”
or: “I love the vain/insecure part of you who stands in front of the mirror lifting up the dangly flesh on your neck and wondering if there’s some kind of plastic surgery for that.”
or: “I love the part of you who is jealous of that other novelist for winning that big award.”
I used to try to banish all those parts of myself. Because they were BAD. They were WRONG. They were UNEVOLVED. They were NEGATIVE.
But banishing the parts of myself that I hated has never worked. The more I try to banish them, the stronger they grow. The more I hated these parts of myself, the more they multiplied. It’s like my self-hatred was fertilizer — creating a dark, warm, nourishing environment for all those “bad” thoughts and impulses to grow…and as they grew, they destroyed me.
Now I just say to the dark thought, “I love this part of you”…and the dark thought loses its power.
I understand now that I am not a SELF. I am SELVES. I am thousands of different selves — and all of them are worthy of love.
To say, “I love you,” is the only force strong enough to diffuse darkness.
And here’s the crazy thing — this habit is starting to spread out of me, and I can now do it toward others.
For instance, I now have the capacity to think: “I love the part of my husband who is constantly interrupting me. This is just his weird humanity at play.”
Followed by: “And I love the part of me who gets so freaking irritated about how my husband is constantly interrupting me.”
Followed by: “I love the part of me who doesn’t really BELIEVE that I love the part of my husband who is constantly interrupting me.”
Followed by: “I love the part of me who is saying that this EXTREME LOVE EXPERIMENT is total bullshit, and it will never work.”
Followed by: “I love the part of me who wonders if I will ever truly love myself.”
And it goes on like that. But I go on, too. I just keep throwing love at everything that comes up…until finally it all gently quiets down.
And it does all finally gently quiet down.
I love all these dark parts of myself not because they are wonderful and adorable and perfect and fantastic, but because they are THERE. My dark bits are with me and they will likely always be with me. Just as your dark parts are with you and will likely always be with you. All that is there needs to be loved.
As they say: “It’s not a bug; it’s a FEATURE.”
Our humanity is not an ERROR. Our crazy thoughts are not MISTAKES. Our scary longings and giant failures and ongoing disasters are not ABERRATIONS.
This is merely what it is to be a person — messy, weird, inconsistent, doubtful. This is how we ARE, and that has to be OK, or else nobody is OK.
We are not some early Dell Computer Operating System, here to be de-bugged. We are not some new product for sale, here to be perfected. The goal is not to become an immaculate golden orb. The goal is to return to a place of kindness, where you can be gentle with yourself and others, no matter what arises. This requires, I think, a friendly sort of loving humor about who you are and who we all are. Why does the Dalai Lama have such a twinkle about him? Because he gets it. He gets that it’s kind of funny, how we are. Even when it’s terrible. The whole thing is…very, very strange. And that’s OK. It’s strange, but it’s sacred.
And I believe there no is gentler or safer place to stand on this earth than in a place where you can say to yourself, “I love every bit of you, you beautiful freak.”
The Buddha said it better, of course. The Buddha said, “You can search the whole world over and never find anyone as deserving of love as yourself.”
In other words: Be good to you, OK?
Please put down the knife you have been holding to your own throat. You don’t deserve that kind of abuse, and it won’t help.
Just try it. Try saying to your scariest bits: “I love this part of you.”
And then say it again to the next part…and the next part…and the next part…and the next part…and ONWARD.
Good luck in there.
Again credited to Elizabeth Gilbert, author, and pretty amazing wise woman.
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“Document the moments you feel most in love with yourself –
What you’re wearing, who you’re around, what you’re doing.
Recreate and repeat”
I am feeling like it’s ‘a day out of time’ – the day which is in between one Mayan calendar and another. I remember my first experience of feeling this way – I had no idea it was a day out of time, but I FELT it… I am feeling it again today.
Nowadays, it is SO rare for me to do a private chocolate ceremony… there was a time when I’d do one almost every day!
I am doing one today, and it feels like SUCH a treat. What’s so funny, is that I was totally sure I’d run out of my Ceremonial Grade Guatemalan (Mayan) chocolate but I just found a little stash, specially for this sacred ceremony 🙂
I’ve felt so ‘in between’ worlds the last few weeks, even though I’ve been spending a lot of time with friends and family visiting – I’ve still felt very ‘dreamlike’. I have a hiatus today… so I’m going into chocolate dream time and my intention is to come out awakened the other side… I have much to tune into. So many choices, so many paths ahead of me…
I am very much looking forward to the experience.
If you are being guided to do yoga, have a ceremony, or do whatever, which you know is great for your wellness, please pay attention. We ARE in a most powerful week astrologically, energetically – as above, so below. Pay heed, be gentle to yourself, and LOVE you!
Thank you for allowing me to share my ‘in between’ state… I set the intention that whatever you do, when you read this, will honour your HIGHEST path, your heart and soul. Honour where YOU are! The energies are gentler now, but still, as with The Spirit of Cacao… they are gentle yet POWERFUL!
If you are aware of your negative beliefs, it is soooo so so so important to focus on the opposite of those ‘normal’ default negative beliefs… I AM WORTHY LOVABLE CAPABLE I AM ENOUGH… etc. etc. etc.
So, whatever your predominant negative belief is about yourself, focus on the things that demonstrate the opposite, look at what you’ve created so far in your life, take that as proof of your Greatness. Be the adorable, loving, compassionate, FUN adult to your inner child.
I love you.
Please share this so that others can also be in this ‘time of no time’ and come out the other side the shining radiant light being that they are in essence.
See you on the other side… let me know how YOUR journey is going.
I will report back the other side, and join me in Ceremony to sample this magical elixir and create YOUR beautiful life.
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This is a little ‘ps.’ to my recent blog “4 Steps Back To The Light….”
As long as we’re constantly moving towards creating more love and happiness in our life, while rooted in the Present, we have the key.
Doubt, Fear, Procrastination etc. will always be there, we need to create regardless.
This is what I said to someone in a session earlier today. She is fairly and squarely on the Shamanic Priestess path, and is just coming more and more into her Power, gleaning learnings from a great period of growth…..
“Name me a Shaman who has had an easy life.”
As a little treat, addendum and thank you to MysticMama.com I’d like to share this beautiful piece which sums up my journey, my recent experience of despair, and our beautiful lives.
Butterfly, Symbol Of Our Spiritual
“In Hopi lore, the butterfly is the symbol of man’s spiritual transformation.
‘At the level of existence, when it crawls on Mother Earth in the form of a caterpillar, it only sees what is right in front of it,’ Grandmother Mona explains. ‘There comes a time in the development when it puts itself into a little cocoon and enters the darkness. In this darkness, it completely breaks down. During that time a great change takes place…”
“‘Finally it emerges into this world, into this life as a beautiful creature,’ Grandmother Mona says. ‘Yet it doesn’t immediately fly away. It sits there as if to be making a connection again with the elements of life: the water, the air, the fire, the earth. Then there is a moment when its wings start fluttering, developing movement, developing strength within itself using these elements of life.
‘When the moment comes and the butterfly takes flight, it suddenly sees the world from a completely different point of view, a view of vaster beauty and a much, much wider worldview. This is what I was told about being a butterfly.’
“…Grandmother Mona believes the Hopi legend of the butterfly can see us through these turbulent times of darkness and confusion by revealing to us our path of transformation.
“These times can actually be viewed as necessary to enable humanity as a whole to transform into a comprehension of the truth of our oneness with each other and with all of Creation.
“Only by going into darkness and breaking down our old ways can we move from the myopic view of the caterpillar to the greatly expanded view of the butterfly~ a necessary view if we are to save the beauty and resources of our planet for the next seven generations to come.
“Then we will have emerged out of the darkness of ignorance into the beauty of the butterfly to see the wonder, hope, compassion, faith, and charity so essential for our survival.”
~Grandmother Mona Polacca from Carol Schaefer’s book Grandmothers Counsel the World: Women Elders Offer Their Vision for Our Planet
The Top 3 Mistakes that Professional Women in their 30’s Make That Keep Them Depressed & Miserable At Work!
It’s time to step into your new world and create a life you love? Today is the first day of the rest of the life you CHOOSE.
My passion is guiding wonderful women to create their very own Heaven on Earth. The first step is to get clarity on life purpose and soul purpose.
When we do work we love, you create a powerful foundation, a beautiful new structure to build everything else on.
From 3 – 1, the things that DO NOT assist Women in creating a life they love….
3. Blinkered Focus…
What we put our attention on, we create. Women are often unaware of the beliefs, self talk and opinions that consist of their ‘inner voice’ or ‘gremlin’. Basically their thoughts are not empowering. And the opinions of others don’t inspire. They then lead to emotions which aren’t empowering and uplifting.
Begin to notice your self talk. Replace any negative thoughts and beliefs with positive ones. Become aware of those times when you feel like giving up on your dreams.
Start to become aware of your concerns and worries; 90% fo what we worry about never comes true.
What would be like if you did follow your dreams, your heart, and eventually create the life you love. Use your imagination as the bridge between the here and now, and what you would love to create.
Take my word for it, EVERYTHING is made up. Luckily so are our beliefs …
For instance, a common belief is that we’re not good enough. If this resonates, how about you list all the wonderful things you’ve acheived? You might need to enlist a friend or partner for this exercise, as it often takes someone else to help us to realise our magnificence. Once you do this, and you see the wonderful things you HAVE created, then start imagining what you could create when both your mind, heart AND soul are also playing the game. Sooo start making up what you DO love. Use your imagination to dream up the life you would love, worry is such a ridiculous use of the imagination. Shift your perspective for 2014 and have fun with it!
2. It’s Never Too Late
Know that There IS enough time!
It’s a known fact, that when we take our last breaths, we only regret the things we haven’t done. It’s so common if someone is told they only have a year or a month or whatever to live, they start doing everything they love. Then they go into remission, and become well again! Don’t wait til it’s too late! Live the life you love now. Become aware of the things you’d love to do, but maybe you talk yourself out of them for time reasons, or even for money reasons.
I love the quotation; ‘shoot for the moon, if you miss you’ll end up in the stars.’
You might have invested a lot in the life you’re living now, but is it fulfilling. Is it causing you stress? Louise Hay the famous author, and life changer set up ‘Hay House Publishing’ probably the most successful publishing house for spiritual books in her 50s AFTER she’d been diagnosed with an incurable disease. She simply said NO to that life, and created the life she does love. Think of the amount of people whose lives she’s changed. MORE than millions!
Is it fair that you’re sitting around thinking it’s too late when you could be a future life changer? Is it fair to those people who could do with your assistance, your story, your inspiration to NOT go for the life you love?
1. Get clarity on what you WOULD love….
So many women simply continue on the stressful treadmill, going to a job, working waay more than 9-5 in a job they hate. Then they spend their money on posh clothes and holidays, because they’re simply not happy with the life they’re living.
I did this for many years, although I used to use things that were much more harmful to my health to resolve my tension. I was close to a nervous breakdown before I realised I could kill myself living a miserable life. I was even fooling myself that I was making a difference in the world as I produced a “Jerry Springer” type show 🙁 Back then I didn’t have all the tools and knowledge I have now, the most wonderful one being the ability to tune into my own higher wisdom in an accurate tangible way.
Create the vision, dream about the things you DO like. What direction is your soul calling you to take? Write a list. Design your ‘ideal day’. These are all great ideas and they work! If I ever feel like I’m losing connection with my heart and what I love, I write a list of the things I’d do on my ‘Ideal Day’, it’s sooo liberating, and often they are all things I can do right now, so I do, and it shifts me into a much higher gear, more blissful living.
I remember New Year more than ten years ago, I left the television industry a while before and I did one of those exercises where you write down how you’d love your life to be. I wrote down ‘to be a full time healer’ and instantly I became aware of my ‘inner voice’ or ‘gremlin’ piping up and saying ‘yeah right, you???? Ha! As if!’ So funny.
That was a long time ago, and not only have I already been a full time healer, I’ve become so much more, more happy, fulfilled, confident and real!
Read on as I’m sharing a groovy way to actually visit your version of Heaven on Earth later, so you get clarity on the direction your soul is calling you to take WITHOUT any negativity clouding the way.
The ability to love your work is something that fascinated me for many, many years before I managed to actually DO work I love. I really didn’t think it was possible – isn’t work just something that brings in the pay cheque at the end of the month? Lol. Whenever I met someone who did something they loved I used to put them on a pedestal, as some unbelievable icon of a person living a life I could never have!
When I was a television producer which was a fun, dream job, but it eventually turned into a nightmare. I was super stressed, working 70 hours a week, unhealthy and frequently ill. I really didn’t see any way out so I stuck it out for many years. I’d invested a lot into getting to the top of the career ladder, only to realise that ladder was leaning against the wrong building. It took courage and a leap into the unknown to leave, and I have NEVER looked back. That was over thirteen years ago and I’m pleased to say that I’m now fully on purpose and loving this grand adventure of a life. Having had such a difficult path to creating what I DO love, I now guide others to create a life on purpose, taking not the difficult bus, or even the easy bus, but the MAGIC bus.
I’m fascinated by the state of being ‘in flow’. It’s the space that racing drivers go into when they’re overtaking at ridiculous mph, or athletes, when time and space disappear and their only focus is on winning…. It’s like time slows down to allow them to enter a zone of magic and win the race. The state of consciousness reached when space & time stand still. When you’re totally captivated in what you’re doing. There are no thoughts of time, food or surroundings; there are simply no thoughts! It’s a feeling of being high and it’s a higher state of consciousness.
I realised recently that it’s the consciousness of being in oneness, of being connected with the divine. I experienced this ‘aha’ moment while in a Chocolate Ceremony in Spain a couple of weeks ago. As I sat there, totally ‘in the zone’ and blissed out I realised that this state of bliss is our natural state.
When I was sooo scared of leaving my media job, I could never in a gazamillion years that one day I’d be guiding others to GLOW IN THEIR FLOW. Now that’s what lights me up; connecting people with their passion, their flow and their divinity.
What lights you up?
What sparks you into that space of bliss where time and space don’t exist?
What are the doubts you hold that say you can’t do it?
Get clarity and connect with your Magnificence.
This is an invitation to join me between Solstice, Saturday 21st December and January 8th, 2014. There’s a new moon on New Years Day, after that we’ve got a week long portal for powerful intention-setting, and new paradigm creating juiciness! This is a super powerful time to get clarity on the life your soul is calling you to take, and discover what has prevented you from creating the life of your dreams.
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Aloha 🙂 Updated Mon 17th February 2014