Happy New Year! 2017
Step into that new year with a sparkly sashay and smile 😉
Here’s a little message a suggestion on how you can create your bestest year so far.
It’s a three part process that can take anything from 10 seconds to an hour if you want to devote that time to it. It’s a great way to close the year, and move into a new year, refreshed, renewed and READY for the best so far.
The way you CREATE is focus… focussing on what you DO want… so this will assist you in getting clarity, and letting go of what you do NOT want to focus on 😉
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A short blog on happiness and thoughts…
with a quotation from Ashleigh Grace Walkinshaw;
“If people only knew…the divine POWER of their thoughts!
First thing when I wake up is to think of the love, the people and “things” I have to be grateful for.
I pray for them all.
I DECIDE to be happy.
I don’t even get up unless I have a smile on my face.
I laugh a lot – especially when things aren’t necessarily going my way, because they are illusions that won’t last longer than one breath unless I LET it.
When we learn to love ourselves, first, everything changes. Because we love ourselves, we decide to be happy every morning when we wake up, because it just seems like the best choice for remaining positive all day.
It makes us glow and people will remark about it often.
Everyone wants to know why I’m so happy all the time and I say, “Because I want to be.” Is there a better reason?
You see, it all has to do with Divine Intent.
If I have divine intent, then ALL my relationships are divine. They are truth based. I bring happiness with me, it is not a burden I place on the shoulders of loved ones.
You are not responsible for my happiness – I am.
It IS a discipline, something to practice every day until it becomes normal habit.
Unless you are a fortunate one born with the “happy gene”.
It is really not as complicated as we can make it.”
Ashleigh Grace Walkinshaw
Anxiety & Panic Attacks; 3 Tips For Happiness & Success
Do you ever suffer with anxiety or panic attacks? I share the Top 3 Tips For Anxiety and Panic… and why there’s a MASSIVE gift waiting for you. Often, the thing we fear most is the thing our heart yearns for more than we can imagine…
It’s early morning, the sun is breaking through the top of the mountain range out of my window and I was instantly called to write this piece as I got a sense of panic in my heart. My heart rate increased and that’s it…. luckily I was able to stop it there.
There was a time when I would go straight into a panic attack, followed by depression, and worse. My mind would come up with all sorts of reasons why it was happening which would only exacerbate the situation. Before I knew it, I’d be off, creating some crazy, dramatic scenario of doom in my life with the crazy monkey mind in control. Often, I wouldn’t even realise my heart was beating fast, and the thoughts had control until it was too late. It was an automatic reaction, starting with a thought, a feeling and then transitioning in warp speed time to the feeling of impending doom, and fear for survival.
Definition of Anxiety
The Oxford English Dictionary definition of ‘anxiety‘ is:
A feeling of worry, nervousness, or unease about something with an uncertain outcome.
A Strong desire or concern to do something or for something to happen.
In my opinion, it is an unbearable feeling. It is usually totally out of proportion with the thought, or situation that triggered it, and it makes you feel like you’re going to die! It’s very often linked with depression, which is at the far end of the spectrum to it, a slower vibration, but the feeling can be just as soul destroying. The good news is that it’s just your body giving you a signal; read on….
What To Do?
If you experience any of these symptoms, the short term solutions are:
- Acknowledge it. Don’t fight it. Admit to yourself what is happening… “It is just a panic attack/anxiety, I am not going to die”. Notice that it is just a physical reaction.
- Breathe! When you acknowledge, rather than fight the attack, and the feelings that come with it, you step into your power. You become CONSCIOUS.
- Get Physical. Get clarity on what coping mechanisms work for you. Feel your feet planted on the ground. Shake your hands, run on the spot, or dance! There are some great aromatherapy oils, and rescue remedies (get recommendations from your local health food store) that can give immediate relief. Having clarity on what triggers you so that you have them handy at all times – whether needed or not is great for peace of mind.
“The only difference between fear and excitement, is the breath.”
Anxiety and depression are two of the the most common illnesses worldwide. In the US alone, they cost about $40 billion per year!
Remember to stop and smell the flowers….
“A ship in port is safe, but that’s not what ships are built for.”
How To Prevent It?
Long term, many would recommend seeing a healthcare professional (and I guess, as a professional I have to recommend that), but there are other ways to deal with it.
I have worked with a lot of women who suffered from anxiety for many years, and they have transformed into wildly successful businesswomen. Their big dreams are manifesting, and many more are STILL coming true. Their relationships have improved, their self esteem has grown… The anxiety was a BIG prompt for them to change their life… so they could receive more of its magnificence.
Many of these women had been living a life of compromise, they had money worries, they were not happy with their relationships or health – in short and they were unhappy, miserable, and some had almost given up on life….
More often than not, somewhere, deep down, hidden in their heart was a dream. A big dream that simply wouldn’t go away…. no matter how much they tried to squash it back down, and no matter how many years they gained behind them…..
Instead, it bubbled up with all sorts of ailments, unhappiness, and manifested in anxiety and depression. It was a dream that they thought was impossible… Some days they would hide under the duvet, too full of misery, and hatred for themselves… for not taking that big leap. Other days it manifested as anxiety or depression. They simply couldn’t bring themselves to go out the front door…. it was insidious, it crept up like a cold wind bringing fear, and tales of a life half lived. More often than not, they were not even conscious of what was happening… they just drowned in a life half-lived, with a vague smile on their face…. but sadness in their heart and misery in their being. If any of this resonates, remember you CAN manifest your dream and …
You do not need ‘fixing’.
You do not need healing.
You do not need to analyse the situation or yourself.
You do not need to control it.
You do not need to judge it, or judge yourself for having it.
In the moment, you simply need to do NOTHING… nothing which involves FEELING it. It might seem super scary, but there’s a powerful system I use with my clients which allows them to easily, effortlessly, feel and heal whatever is going on with them. Unless you actually FEEL it, it will keep coming up, triggered by anything and everything until you go INTO the feeling.
In that feeling, there is a POWERFUL message!
I have a message for you too – I am here to tell you – YOU ARE GOOD ENOUGH!
You CAN manifest that dream. You are not here to work all the days of your life in a gray office. Whatever your dream is, you CAN manifest it. We are not given dreams and desires, without the ability to manifest them. You ARE here to do work you love, to have a fantastic relationship, to write your book, whatever YOUR dream is. So, throw off the bowlines, push away from the shore and start taking action on manifesting your dream! If you don’t know where to start, contact me and we can have a chat and set up a plan of action… guided by the heart, taking the head along on the journey.
You are here to leave a legacy, you are here to step OUT of your comfort zone (which is really a discomfort zone), there is MUCH more comfort when you are out in the world, shining as you were born to do. Creating what you came here to create!
If you would like clarity on what it is you are really here to do, or you need help dealing with anxiety, depression or the like, then complete the ‘Subscribe’ button at the very bottom of this page, or the popup menu and either myself or one of my team will be in touch with you.
“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do.
So throw off the bowlines.
Sail away from the safe harbour.
Catch the trade winds in your sails.
Explore. Dream. Discover.”
Extra Tip – Acupressure
If you get that anxious feeling, there’s a great acupressure point called “Heart 7” – which is also great for insomnia. Hold it for a few seconds, and your heart will calm down, and your mind will relax.
Click here for information on how to locate it, or simply hold out a hand with the palm up, then with the thumb of the other hand, follow the dip between the bones of the ring and little fingers, up to the wrist crease… you will find a dip, this is Heart 7. Hold it gently, while breathing deeply and relax and enjoy. Some acupressure points are contraindicated if you are pregnant, but this one is okay.
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222 2222 New Beginnings…
What does it mean when you see the number 2 repeated?
Synchronicity and messages come through in many ways, especially repeated numbers. You might see it as the date, or on clocks, the time, car registration numbers, telephone numbers, receipts, change or the total on your receipt.
So what does 222 mean?
Well, it’s a very good sign. The new moon is closely linked with the number 2, when you see repetitive 2 it is a sign of NEW BEGINNINGS… It is saying – keep going, do not to give up, be patient. Your seed is just below the soil, ready to sprout into a beautiful flower (or your creation). Just because you can’t see anything, it doesn’t mean it’s not developing. More on the stages of creation and manifestation below.
222 or other groups of ‘2’ are reminding you to stay positive… don’t lose hope just before your seed shoots through the soil, to the light of day and full manifestation.
Celebrate your humanness, your dreams are coming true, keep going and…..
It is a reminder to take it easy! You ARE on the way to manifesting your dreams.. You just need to ‘do the work’ every single day, every single nano second – and know that even on the most miserable days, your manifestations ARE coming through…. like seeds, sprouting, slowing reaching the light of day… If you give up just before the seed bursts through the soil you miss the manifestation.
In terms of creating and manifesting our dreams, we can describe it in the following steps:
A Dream, New Vision or Realisation
You have a dream… you meet a teacher or a mentor who shows you another way – your “Soul’s Path”.
You have a glimpse of another possibility, another life choice. It could be a new business, relationship, health choice and so on.
You get super excited as it seems SO real, believable and possible.
This is your “Call To Adventure” as Joseph Campbell describes it in his book “The Hero’s Journey“. You meet a teacher or a guide, and you commit to your dream or vision. This is the path of the heart.
By accepting the call, and remaining excited, following the breadcrumb trail of joy – you eventually manifest your dreams. It helps to be trained in tapping into your intuition in an accurate, tangible way. Then you totally know if you are being motivated by fear… or love (the heart/imagination/intuition).
Doubt, Challenge & Testing
In the second stage of the journey, doubt, challenges and tests arise… You’ve got clarity on your dream, and the vision you would like to manifest, but then the mind takes over….. FEAR!
The job of the mind (or ego) is to protect you. Its sole job is your survival…. literally! This was necessary back in the days of cave dwelling, but nowadays the mind can go into overdrive and actually take you AWAY from your heart’s path, and your dreams (it thinks it’s protecting you).
The ego sees you are about to do something new… and it fears for your safety and survival (if you keep doing what you’ve been doing, it’s quite happy – even if is not good for you… because you have not died… literally, its job is to keep you alive – it’s that simple – and crazy).
When you think about following your heart it freaks out!
In this stage, the ego has been alerted to the fact that you might be taking the path of the heart and it sees that as scary… it’s got its ‘alert!’ hat on 🙂
Whatever area you are thinking about changing, different scenarios might come up…
If you consider leaving the ‘known’, worries arise – you’ve trained long and hard at your job – to be a lawyer, a teacher, a television producer (my past career) or whatever the job you are considering leaving that simply isn’t bringing you joy – so fear comes up and you think you can’t give it up. You doubt whether your new venture will be a success… ‘Maybe doing fabulous, enjoyable work is for others, the dreamers, not me….’ you think.
You don’t think you can leave your marriage because of that bit of paper and those promises you made a looooong time ago. You worry about what others will think and say. You think maybe you should compromise.
Any time ‘222’ pops up, you’re being told to look for the magic, the magic is within you, and this is a sign that you are on the right path… get excited and stay with the excitement. Be patient.
You don’t think you can manifest your dream home, or move and live somewhere else and all sorts of worries come up. The dreaded word ‘HOW’ bugs you as you ‘try’ to work out the entire journey from where you are to your manifested dream.
I actually suggest that my clients refrain from using the word ‘how’ as it catapults them firmly into the left, logical brain. Nothing wrong with the left brain, but it is limited to what you have learned and experienced, whereas the right brain is unlimited… It is the sphere of the imagination, intuition, synchronicity, magic, and love. You need both sides of your brain to manifest successfully. :)…
Whatever your story, whatever your dream there is something that needs to be released, and something that you need to commit to…. if you are to live a fantastic life, rather than a life of compromise, fear, loneliness… whatever your favourite ego flavour is ….
“The imagination is the preview of life’s coming attractions.”
“Imagination is more powerful than knowledge.”
So this is the stage where we doubt ourselves… many give up here … this is why so many equate dreams, desires, visions with pain and suffering.
Many give up for many years, or forever. We’re not taught to ‘break out of the system’ so to speak…
This is the stage of testing… are you committed to your dream … or not?
Anything that comes up and doubts your stage one (your vision), is stage two…
This stage is also a sort of ‘safety light switch’. You are being asked –
Are you sure you want to leave your job?
Are you sure you want to leave your relationship?
Are you sure you want to change your vibration and your life…
If you say YES you reach…..
Manifestation & Realisation That You Are A DMB (Divine Magnificent Being)
You manifest your dream!
It is time for CELEBRATION & COMPLETION!
Remember you’re a God, Goddess, divine magnificent being, spirit having a human experience… If you have a desire you CAN manifest it…. it is law! We are never given a dream, or a desire that is impossible to manifest.
In this stage, you begin to manifest more and more and more of what you love.
You start to FEEL the vibration of having manifested your dream. You let go… and before you know, you’ve either manifested it, or you realise you’ve manifested something even better. Often, when you are focussed on the ‘big’ dream, you look around and realise you have manifested something you wished for a very long time ago. When you take your mind (and fear) off it, you allow it to come into your life. A type of surrender… of the most powerful kind. That’s what ‘being in your power’ means – it is having a dream, and taking action to manifest it. You ‘do the work’. When you rise to the vibration – the feeling of having what you love… it comes rushing into your life…. 222 You need to keep your vibe high though! To discover how to do this, feel free to ask me…. or remind me to write another blog on this.
So the numbers 2, or repeated 2’s are saying don’t give up! It’s a message from your guides, whoever/wherever you seek your guidance from. It is spirit – your higher self, the angels, your ancestors – when they get your attention with repetitive numbers, it’s their way of communicating with you. You CAN do it! You are WELL CAPABLE. You are GOOD ENOUGH, YOU ARE LOVABLE and YOU ARE WORTHY!
You only want what you want, because in the having of it, you think you will feel better.. so feel good anyway!
So keep going, keep dreaming, spend more time in the dreams, imagining, playing than you do in your ‘stuff’ (negative beliefs, thoughts, feelings) and it WILL happen…. it is law!
Do you see 222 – or other numbers a lot?
What numbers have a special significance for you?
How do you get ‘YES’ signs from the Universe/angels etc.?
I’d love to hear your comments and whether this resonates, comment below.
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I just read a post on Facebook by the wonderful Elizabeth Gilbert, author of ‘Eat Pray Love’ which was also a film starring Julia Roberts, and most recently the fabulous ‘Big Magic’.
Her post was a call to women to simply love themselves – ALL of themselves. This is totally my philosophy, and what I work with in sessions with clients – when you love whatever arises, you see the treasure in the tough times, and alchemise them into the next steps on your path to creating everything you love.
Having just spent some time totally confined to bed with the yukky ‘shingles’ – I’m slowly recovering as I integrate all the learnings and gifts I’ve received while ill. I did A LOT of soul searching over the last few weeks and among the realisations was this gem. It’s nothing new to me… but I got it, on a deeper, more profound, juicy level. I am celebrating!
You must love yourself… is this a cliche now?
How do we love ourselves?
Well, here’s Elizabeth Gilbert’s post. She poses a lot of questions, with a lot of gemstone answers!
I hope you enjoy it.
Credit Elizabeth Gilbert
I’m worried about something. I’m worried about how much we hate ourselves.
When I say “we”, I mean modern people in the developed Western world, primarily. And among that population, it is the women who hate themselves most of all — who harm themselves, sabotage themselves, bully themselves, undermine themselves, and speak to themselves in voices of unthinkable cruelty.
Increasingly, I believe that the vast majority of our suffering is a result of this epidemic. And I am CERTAIN that everything you want for your life — everything you want to feel and believe and become — is on the other side of that dark river of self-hatred and self-abuse.
We have to stop this.
I won’t be talking today about the causes of our self-hatred. I don’t want to drift into the easy blame of “the media’s images of women”, or “the patriarchy”, or “the internet” or “the emotional disconnect of the post-industrial world” or even “our fucked up families.” Because you know what? I DON’T KNOW. I’m not smart enough to know what this is all about, or where the self-hatred comes from. I just know that it’s prevalent, it’s contagious, it’s really dangerous, and that we are destroying ourselves with it.
Sharon Salzberg, the great American meditation master, tells a story about meeting the Dalai Lama in 1990. She asked him what he thought about self-hatred, and he replied, “Self-hatred? What is that?”
Seriously. He didn’t know what she was talking about. He kept probing: How could people be taught to hate THEMSELVES?
The room was filled with Western meditators, scientists, pyschologists, and researchers, and over the next hours they tried to explain it to the Dalai Lama — tried to answer his puzzled question of how a person could be taught to hate themself. But he remained puzzled. He said, at the end of it all, “I thought I had a good acquaintance with the mind, but now I feel quite ignorant. I find this very, very strange.”
Unlike the Dalai Lama, I know self-hatred inside and out, you guys. I know self-blame, shame, self-recrimination, and I have certainly experienced rage against my own machine. I know what it feels like to look at every molecule of your being (physical, emotional, intellectual, spiritual) and declare: NOT GOOD ENOUGH, KID. And I know that this way lies madness. Madness and pain, and the death of all good things.
I also know this — that the answer is not to become A BETTER PERSON. The answer is not to IMPROVE. The answer is not TO GET YOUR SHIT TOGETHER. And this is coming from somebody who loves improving, who loves striving, and who is always trying to get her shit together. Look, trying to improve yourself is FINE, if that’s what you’re into. Exercise more, eat better, become more productive, de-clutter your house — whatever. Getting your shit together is very nice. Do all that stuff, if you want to. (I certainly do all that stuff, and I don’t judge it.) But understand this — PEACE WILL NOT BE FOUND THERE. Your house can be so tidy that you could invite Marie Kondo over for dinner with pride, and maybe someday you can achieve rock-hard abs, and maybe someday you could get out debt, and land your dream job, finally stop drinking….and you might STILL hate yourself.
Because the darkness of self-hatred is immune to any worldly accomplishment or success. Achievement does not touch the part of yourself who abuses yourself. The world is filled with highly successful and accomplished people who treat themselves horribly, who talk to themselves savagely, and who abuse themselves terribly. If you could see inside their heads and witness the dreadful conversations going on in there, you would be shocked. You would be shocked, and maybe you would cry. And maybe you would want to take that highly successful and deeply troubled person in your arms and say, “There, there, little small one…there, there…hush, hush…”
Peace will only be found when you can love all the parts of yourself that you have always hated.
I used to think that self-love would only come to me when I had “cleaned up my act” — only when I had gotten rid of all my bad behaviors, only when I had mastered my mind, only when I had driven out all the negative thoughts, only when I had forgiven everyone for everything, only when I had made amends for every mess I had ever caused, only when I could see divinity in everybody, only when I never lost my temper, only when I no longer experienced “bad” emotions like anger, jealousy, resentment, self-pity. In other words, I could not love myself until I had become WORTHY.
Which means…what? Which means: I believed that I could not love myself until I was some kind of polished golden orb of perfection, with an immaculately-controlled mind, a healthy body, and a totally clean record. Someone who would never make another misstep, never speak another unkind word, never be a fuck-up again in any way whatsoever…ever. Then I could love myself.
But who is that? Who is that person I have just described?
That person is nobody. That person is no human being who has ever lived.
And once you realize that, then you realize that we are all this same boat together. That everything you hate about yourself is nothing less than your HUMANITY. Your shared humanity. That you and I, and your neighbor Bob, and your awful sister-in-law, and all those shiny people on Instagram…that we all share the same human dilemma — that we all don’t totally know how to BE, and what to do with ourselves. We all have these strange minds full of incomprehensible thoughts. We all have these untrustworthy hearts that often want forbidden things. We all have these funny ape-like bodies with weird urges. We all have these enormous souls filled with a desperate longing for belonging.
You are no different from me, and I am no different from your neighbor Bob, and your neighbor Bob is no different from your awful sister-in-law, and your awful sister-in-law is no different from all those shiny people on Instagram. There is a massive sense of tenderness that comes over me when I remember that we are all the same in our shared dilemma of how to be a person. We are all in this together. We are a bizarre but beautiful species. And if you believe that human beings need love, and deserve love…then you must someday grow into the belief that YOU also need love and deserve love, and that you must stop being so stingy about giving it to yourself.
You must not think that love is something you give to yourself as a reward, only if you have earned it — like some kind of gold star sticker that you get to put on your homework today if you are good…but maybe not tomorrow, if you fuck up.
You have to give yourself love all the time.
Giving yourself love doesn’t mean that every day is spa day. (Although, hey. If you can swing it…) Giving yourself love doesn’t mean buying yourself fancy presents, or constantly treating yourself, or spoiling yourself. (You are not SEDUCING yourself, remember. You are not trying to get yourself in bed. You are just being kind and loving to yourself.) Giving yourself love doesn’t mean becoming Kanye-like in your insistence that you are the greatest.
You are not the greatest. But you are also not the WORST. And I bet there have been days of your life (maybe years of your life) where all you do is walk around telling yourself that you are the WORST. And I bet that nothing good has ever come out of that way of thinking.
You are not the greatest, and you are not the worst. You are just one of us.
I have tried a radical experiment recently. I call it: THE EXTREME LOVE EXPERIMENT.
Whenever I have a dark thought — a “forbidden” thought, like anger, jealousy, resentment, lust, shame, contempt — I immediately say to myself, “I love the part of you, Liz, who is full of anger right now.”
or: “I love the part of you who is ashamed of yourself right now.”
or: “I love the part of you who can’t stop judging yourself right now.”
or: “I love the part of you who feels weak and helpless right now.”
or: ‘I love the part of you who just had an explicitly violent fantasy about watching that person who is talking loudly on her cellphone suddenly have her head blow up.”
or: “I love the part of you who is still having an argument in your head with a man you haven’t talked to in 15 years.”
or: “I love the part of you who broke your New Year’s resolution on January 4th.”
or: “I love the part of you who believes that she is such a spiritual hypocrite, it’s ridiculous.”
or: “I love the vain/insecure part of you who stands in front of the mirror lifting up the dangly flesh on your neck and wondering if there’s some kind of plastic surgery for that.”
or: “I love the part of you who is jealous of that other novelist for winning that big award.”
I used to try to banish all those parts of myself. Because they were BAD. They were WRONG. They were UNEVOLVED. They were NEGATIVE.
But banishing the parts of myself that I hated has never worked. The more I try to banish them, the stronger they grow. The more I hated these parts of myself, the more they multiplied. It’s like my self-hatred was fertilizer — creating a dark, warm, nourishing environment for all those “bad” thoughts and impulses to grow…and as they grew, they destroyed me.
Now I just say to the dark thought, “I love this part of you”…and the dark thought loses its power.
I understand now that I am not a SELF. I am SELVES. I am thousands of different selves — and all of them are worthy of love.
To say, “I love you,” is the only force strong enough to diffuse darkness.
And here’s the crazy thing — this habit is starting to spread out of me, and I can now do it toward others.
For instance, I now have the capacity to think: “I love the part of my husband who is constantly interrupting me. This is just his weird humanity at play.”
Followed by: “And I love the part of me who gets so freaking irritated about how my husband is constantly interrupting me.”
Followed by: “I love the part of me who doesn’t really BELIEVE that I love the part of my husband who is constantly interrupting me.”
Followed by: “I love the part of me who is saying that this EXTREME LOVE EXPERIMENT is total bullshit, and it will never work.”
Followed by: “I love the part of me who wonders if I will ever truly love myself.”
And it goes on like that. But I go on, too. I just keep throwing love at everything that comes up…until finally it all gently quiets down.
And it does all finally gently quiet down.
I love all these dark parts of myself not because they are wonderful and adorable and perfect and fantastic, but because they are THERE. My dark bits are with me and they will likely always be with me. Just as your dark parts are with you and will likely always be with you. All that is there needs to be loved.
As they say: “It’s not a bug; it’s a FEATURE.”
Our humanity is not an ERROR. Our crazy thoughts are not MISTAKES. Our scary longings and giant failures and ongoing disasters are not ABERRATIONS.
This is merely what it is to be a person — messy, weird, inconsistent, doubtful. This is how we ARE, and that has to be OK, or else nobody is OK.
We are not some early Dell Computer Operating System, here to be de-bugged. We are not some new product for sale, here to be perfected. The goal is not to become an immaculate golden orb. The goal is to return to a place of kindness, where you can be gentle with yourself and others, no matter what arises. This requires, I think, a friendly sort of loving humor about who you are and who we all are. Why does the Dalai Lama have such a twinkle about him? Because he gets it. He gets that it’s kind of funny, how we are. Even when it’s terrible. The whole thing is…very, very strange. And that’s OK. It’s strange, but it’s sacred.
And I believe there no is gentler or safer place to stand on this earth than in a place where you can say to yourself, “I love every bit of you, you beautiful freak.”
The Buddha said it better, of course. The Buddha said, “You can search the whole world over and never find anyone as deserving of love as yourself.”
In other words: Be good to you, OK?
Please put down the knife you have been holding to your own throat. You don’t deserve that kind of abuse, and it won’t help.
Just try it. Try saying to your scariest bits: “I love this part of you.”
And then say it again to the next part…and the next part…and the next part…and the next part…and ONWARD.
Good luck in there.
Again credited to Elizabeth Gilbert, author, and pretty amazing wise woman.
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The 13 Spiritual Benefits of Chocolate – Cacao Ceremony Time!
Do you know that chocolate is actually medicine?
How cool is that?
It is one of the most powerful, gentle facilitators, teachers and guides on the planet – and it is delicious too!
The Ancient Mayans and Aztecs used Chocolate for Spiritual and Ceremonial purposes. In its purest form (unlike much of the chocolate available in the mainstream), it is a powerful assistant for ‘inner work’, creative guidance and so much more. Read on to discover how this delicious superfood can help you!
The 13 Spiritual Benefits of Chocolate – Cacao Ceremony Time – And Connecting with ‘The Spirit of Cacao’…
13. HEART OPENER
Chocolate opens the heart and allows for a deeper, authentic love based connection with yourself, others, the world and all of life.
12. SHAMANIC JOURNEYING
It promotes powerful journeying and connection with your spiritual wisdom.
11. THERAPY – SOVEREIGN (RATHER THAN CODEPENDENT)
Helps in bringing awareness to things that have been preventing you from creating the life you love. Also aids in releasing repeated patterns, beliefs and blocks which could be stopping you, slowing you down or standing in the way of creating the life you love.
10. CONNECTION WITH HIGHER SELF
Stronger connection with the higher self (intuition, soul, God, Goddess etc.). This leads to an enhanced connection with your own power and truth; your divinity. Chocolate is a powerful facilitator allowing you to delve into your pain.
“You gotta feel it to heal it.”
Once you FEEL your pain (sadness, anger, grief etc. etc.), you won’t keep manifesting situations to feel these feelings. You live a freer, happier life, without constantly being triggered. Releasing these emotions allows more light, love and magic into your life. This is ‘Heaven on Earth’.
9. EFFECTIVE MEDITATION
Powerful, otherworldly and deep meditation enabling you to connect with your spiritual nature, accessing the wisdom within. Meditation is much easier and more beneficial; silencing the mind becomes easy – hence the space for healing occurs.
‘The healing occurs in the stillness.’
It calms the left brain chatter, and allows us to delve more into that ‘no mind’ space of bliss.
8. ‘GET’ ANY LEARNINGS IN YOUR ENTIRE BEING… NOT JUST YOUR HEAD
Profound embodiment of new learnings. This allows you to feel in your body what you know in your head. The teachings you might already be aware of are ‘understood‘, you suddenly ‘get‘ them on a deeper level. For instance, the teaching that we are all love, and love is all there is. You might logically know this, and want to believe it and live it, but you wonder HOW to embody it? Is it true? Chocolate aids the pathway to living and FEELING this love, this bliss, the state of being which IS FLOW, ONENESS and LOVE…..
Indigenous Costa Rican Shaman
7. A JOURNEY TO ONENESS LOVE ENLIGHTENMENT
Feelings of oneness, enlightenment and ecstasy. This results in more love in your life, leading to more effective manifestation and a more powerful, familiar connection with your magnificence and spiritual capacities.
When you access this state; bliss, love, the vortex, the ‘zone’, flow, whatever you want to call it you can manifest what you love. You also enter into the state where what you love, comes to you! Your lover, clients, abundance, vibrant health – you name it.
6. MALE FEMALE ENERGY BALANCE WITHIN
More enhanced, balanced, connected male & female energy. Male and female energies are within everyone. When these energies are in balance, you live a harmonious life magnetising all you love TO you. This integration also leads to enhanced effectiveness as the divine creator and super manifesting machine that you are, in essence.
The balance of male and female energies allows you to receive inspiration (feminine energy) AND act on it (masculine energy).
Chocolate is the ONLY food which
Connects your left brain & your right brain!!!
5. ENHANCED CREATIVITY
Access to the ‘one mind’ or unity consciousness allowing the connection with creative ideas. You enter a zone where you are receiving ‘aha’ moments, inspiration, ideas. With the enhanced male/female balance, these are made manifest….
4. IMPROVED YOGA, CHI KUNG AND SIMILAR PRACTICES
More effective, deeper, profound, easier yoga and chi kung practice.
Your practice improves on every level; physical, mental, spiritual, emotional.
This is probably the case with other practices too (aikido, kick boxing etc.) but I have yet to try other – so let me know!
3. CONNECTION TO HIGHER DIMENSIONS
A deeper, stronger connection with ‘the light’, the new, higher dimensions, raising your vibration.
Posing with a Chocolate Tree and friend in Costa Rica
2. CAREER GUIDANCE – CROSSROADS CLARITY
More clarity, ideas and connection with your life purpose. Clarity on your talents, skills and how you are here to serve – you easily connect with your creative abilities; writing, painting, dancing, music or whatever floats your boat really. Flow is the one thing that those who are successful in business experience. Whether ‘spiritual’ or not. From this state creation, and abundance…. FLOWS!
1. FUN – The Reason We’re Here!
Chocolate is a gentle, powerful feminine force. It is the force for the new world. In fact ‘power’ is a better word than ‘force’.
By surrendering to the essence and energy of Chocolate, you can step into the higher dimensions. It facilitates a deep Shamanic experience of ‘being in the world but not of it’ or ‘having a foot in both worlds’.
You become the Ascended Master on earth… bringing Heaven TO Earth. It shows you how you can shift your perception so life can be fun.
That is what we are here for, to have fun!
This was the learning I got when I lived in Hawaii and I swam with the wild dolphins almost every day. They kept telling me (telepathically), FUN FUN FUN. However, it took me about 5 years to master the teaching… in fact I’m still getting my head around it.
We’re here to have fun, if it’s not fun, don’t do it, or MAKE IT FUN!
Is Chocolate A Drug?
Well, if you think that tobacco, coffee and alcohol are drugs, then I guess so.
Chocolate wasn’t popular as a psychoactive in the 60s because it’s not actually psychedelic (although many experience visions and powerful journeys in my ceremonies). It is is gaining a lot of popularity now, because of all the shifts on the planet. We’ve come to a tipping point. As chocolate connects you with your heart, it also connects you with something bigger…. God, the Universe, Spirit, your higher self… whatever you want to call it. That space you enter when you appreciate a phenomenal sunset… before the mind chips in and goes;
‘Oooheee – look, she’s having one of ‘those’ experiences!’ Lol..
Do you know what I mean?
Anyway, I digress, I discovered this magic a few years ago on a trip round the world and it totally changed my life. Below, I share my journey and 13 Spiritual benefits of using chocolate for ceremonial and spiritual purposes.
Most of the chocolate available in the marketplace is full of sugar and additives. The beans are often hybridised, or low quality, so it doesn’t have a powerful effect. The chocolate that I work with facilitates a deeper journey, and intense feelings of BLISS.
Messages From The Dolphins (the most intelligent of mammals).
The messages that the dolphins deliver, and the basis of Hawaiian Shamanism… It’s all about FUN, LOVE, BREATHING (consciously) and CONNECTION 🙂 I spent many months swimming with wild dolphins in Hawaii, they communicated with me daily, and eventually we had a very sovereign relationship (once I stopped depending on them for healing lol). They continually reminded me:
BREATHE … HAVE FUN … LOVE … CONNECT … FLOW!
The importance of these messages has been communicated to me recently in my own work and through witnessing what others gain in ceremonies and one to one sessions. It facilitates the clearing of deep psychological, emotional, and spiritual blocks. It allows one to get to the root of any emotion or even any physical ailment, to discover why they have it and in turn feeling the emotion related to it; subsequently healing the original dis-ease and releasing it.
The number thirteen is a powerful number; the number of the Goddess. During the patriarchy, we were led to believe that 13 is unlucky as it is the number attributed to the power – the gentle power of the feminine.
When the patriarchy came to the fore, it was ruled as ‘unlucky’ because they wanted us to fear the power of the Goddess and women in general. It represents the new world of love and peace which is being created right now.
Back Story – How I discovered the magical, spiritual, medicinal qualities of chocolate!
I arrived in Guatemala at 11.11 on 11/11/12 feeling VERY curious, and a little afraid.
It was very synchronistic that I landed at those times, the flight was delayed and as I flew in, I was greeted not only by these (very significant) numbers but also by 4/5 bolts of lightning – at eye level!
This was a sure sign that this was probably not going to be an ordinary adventure!! The numbers have many meanings (click here to check them out).
My visit was also timed with the important dates which would occur the month after (12/12/12 and 21/12/12), the dates famed as being the end of the Mayan calendar, time as we know it, and a 26,00 year cycle. This was much celebrated and talked about worldwide, with some even thinking the world would end on 21 December 2012! What resonated for me, was that it would be the end of the world … as we know itt, and the beginning of a new one. The world of LOVE…
After arriving in Guatemala and spending some time in Antigua, a really beautiful city, and World Heritage centre, intuition, and a very dear friend guided me to buy a ticket to Lake Atitlan. I did so, and travelled the very next day. I arrived in San Marcos, a haven of healing portals in the Highlands of Guatemala. I still felt the fear. I had no idea why I was there and as I acknowledged my fear, and total submersion into the unknown, it was soon transmuted after I asked my favourite question; ‘What would I love?’ I actually can’t remember my answer, but I have a few ideas. Anyway, soon after (minutes), I met a wonderful lady who told me about ‘The Chocolate Shaman’ and his ceremonies. That was day one in San Marcos, day two I attended my first ceremony!
I had no idea about the magical properties of chocolate and that the Ancient Mayans and Aztecs used it for Spiritual and Ceremonial purposes. People from all over the world gathered in circle, to drink cacao, and drop from their head to their heart. They experienced healing, while having fun and journeyed deep within to a place where all their answers lay.
The Chocolate Shaman initially connected with the Spirit of Cacao nearly 10 years ago. She told him that Cacao would be ‘The Food for the Shift’. This started his journey of discovery, and ended up with him using Chocolate in its purest form as a medicine, to open others hearts, and return people to their innate power & magnificence.
I spent some months going to Ceremonies and learning about chocolate and surrendering to the ‘stuff” that I needed to let go of. It was totally life-transforming for me, and the path that I ‘thought’ I was going to take from then on, totally changed. I chose to add Sacred Chocolate to my Shaman’s Toolbag and hold ceremonies – well actually it was all totally intuitively guided. I invited a friend to come to my first one – and I loved it. From then on, people asked me to hold them, they got the people to come, they got the venues, all I needed to do was turn up! Now THAT is flow!
The Spirit of Cacao spoke to me – gently, yet powerfully and showed me this was my true path. In fact when I did a Shamanic Journey before I went to Guatemala, I had a vision of myself running what seemed to be Ayahuasca ceremonies – and I was a little surprised. As much as I respect Aya, and I have attended ceremonies it did not resonate as my path. Of course, it wasn’t long before I realised the similarities in a Cacao Ceremony and an Ayahuasca Ceremony. You sit in circle, drink an elixir and have a powerful, (fun with Chocolate), profound experience. The difference being that chocolate will show you the door, it will not push you through. Intention is the key …
I was honoured to have been invited by The Spirit of Cacao to share her magic – her gentle, yet powerful guiding ways all over the planet. Since then, I have continued to build a strong connection with The Spirit of Cacao as the powerful teacher, facilitator and guide that she is.
“Chocolate; The Food For The Shift!”
My experiences since then confirm that Chocolate truly IS the food for the shift.
I have seen so many transformations, and people discovering their purpose, joy, confidence and walking the path their soul called them to take. In my ceremonies I use my Healing, Intuitive Coaching & Shamanic tools from a 16 year professional adventure into the unknown, raising the mists of my own beliefs and assumptions and becoming more of who I was born to be. I’ve been creating more and more of the life I love. Through that, I’ve been guiding others so that they not only create a life THEY love, but also go on to teach others to do so too. Sharing the magical secrets of alchemy and the elixirs of life worldwide!
“We must be the change we wish to see.”
The use of Chocolate has taken my work and the results in others lives to another level. It creates a beautiful cauldron of love, allowing what needs to be released to transmute – thus allowing more room for extra doses of light, love and magic.
During Chocolate Ceremonies, people connect with deep feelings of bliss, love and joy – their FLOW!
They sometimes journey through a variety of emotions which are stuck – these may have caused illness, repetitive patterns, conflict, confusion, lack of abundance, love and basic lack of joy and fulfilment in their lives. They gain deep realisations about their purpose, the meaning of life and the direction their soul is calling them to take.
There’s often wondrous ‘aha’ moments on why certain things have been a perceived ‘problem’ and how, in fact, now they can see that it’s their greatest gift. With this knowledge, the journey forward is more empowered without the old ‘story’ but with a renewed awareness of the gifts they’ve been granted, even through the story! This fresh start empowers them to step into their power in a way they’ve never before experienced (often with them using Chocolate in their work).
The planet is changing, WE are changing and there’s a need for a great number of teachers to become guides for the rest of the planet. There are a lot of pain bodies to be soothed and transmuted, and I’m working with the next wave of teachers. As Eckhart Tolle said, dealing with the pain body is one of the most important, and much needed jobs of the current years.
Chocolate The Superfood
Apart from the fact that Chocolate is a magical medicine, it also has a lot of positive health benefits. It is a superfood, it’s delicious and it’s also an aphrodisiac!
Since my discovery about the magical uses for Chocolate I journeyed to Hawaii & Canada where I held Ceremony, but I also journeyed to Costa Rica and I met tribes who still use Chocolate for these purposes. They also use it for initiations for new born babies, teenagers and pregnant women.
The Spirit of Cacao was one of the most revered of the ancient Mayan Deities. They called Cacao ‘The water that runs through the heart’. Chocolate is a Sacred, Medicinal, Psychoactive, Plant and Theobroma or cacao actually means “Food of the Gods”.
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[Update… December 27, 2014, see bottom of post for a GREAT YouTube piece Celebrities talk “The Law of Attraction]
As I slowly, gleefully sip a ceremonial does of cacao, with tingles all over my body from a powerful download of wisdom and guidance, I share some magic with you.
Life is good. Life is good, because of the learnings. Those learnings that continually come from some really, really painful, tough times and clearing my ‘stuff’; i.e my negative emotions and beliefs.
We’re all on an interesting journey as we come into our power and connect with our divinity (blog on what “A Woman in Our Power” is click here). As we experience tough times, it’s sooo important to keep that in mind – that we are Divine Magnificent Beings, or spiritual beings having a human experience.
Anyway, I digress; I’m writing about the Law of Attraction right? What’s the LoA got to do with tough times? Well, when we move through our tough times, we get light infusions (light = wisdom), so as we learn, and grow, we become lighter. We attract more of what we love. We do this by simply FEELING the emotions, whatever they might be. That clears them, leaving us to manifest what we love.
There’s often a lot of fear around actually being real and feeling our stuff; fear, pain, anger and other emotions.
Sunset, Kailua Kona, Hawaii
The Law of Attraction made big news nearly ten years ago when the movie ‘The Secret’ was launched. I remember watching it and jumping & dancing around my home celebrating at the message it conveyed. My partner had been telling me about all this magic for years; how your thoughts and words create your reality. I must admit, there was a part of me that doubted him, could it really be that simple, and how does it work? I wondered.
When I watched the film I truly celebrated – I was SO happy it was true and this information was now in the mainstream.
As great as ‘The Secret’ was though, it also brought up a lot of confusion, doubt and fear. Many people thought that you had to feel amazing all the time. They thought that if you felt any negative emotions, you would attract negativity.
This is not true. It’s SO important to bear this in mind as we create the new paradigm. We MUST feel our feelings to clear them. Alchemise them. Otherwise they’re lurking around under the surface in your subconscious creating again, what you don’t love.
Your Magnificence comes from those feelings, as does enlightenment. There’s no quick route to a blissful life, it’s the journey and it’s through continually allowing yourself to feel your feelings that you get to bliss. I don’t suggest you wallow in them, just be real and allow yourself to feel them. Neither do I recommend drowning them with things like alcohol, drugs, smoking and busy-ness, but just start being conscious of them, allow.
As Joseph Campbell says;
‘Pain is inherent,
Suffering is optional.’
There’s SUCH peace underneath those feelings if you simply allow yourself to sit with them, and I can’t speak highly enough of the Attitude of Gratitude….
“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life.
It turns what we have into enough, and more.
It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity.
It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend.
Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today,
And creates a vision for tomorrow.” Melody Beattie
If you look at my blog Beliefs & The Power of The Subconscious Mind you’ll see that it’s the subconscious that creates our reality. So if our negative emotions are tucked away there, if we’re ignoring them, or we’re afraid to simply FEEL them, we create more situations where we HAVE to feel them. For instance the same relationship patterns with partners, bosses, etc. etc. That’s why those that push our buttons are our best teachers.
As one of my Shamanic teacher used to say; ‘There’s nothing to fear, but fear itself’. When we fear something, we’re giving our power away, we give power to whatever we fear… therefore that’s what we manifest (see below for many celebrities’ view on this.) When we shift the fear, we have all that power we’ve been channelling (subconsciously) into the fear, we take the hand of fear, and walk with it… shifting the power towards what we love, walking the path our soul is calling us to take… in love.
We’re all Masters of the Law of Attraction, because we’re constantly creating.
Are you creating what you love OR what you don’t love? Look at your life now for instant feedback. It’s a reflection of your past thoughts. We’re all manifesting things we DON’T want as well as those we DO want.
When you clear your negative emotions, you have room for the juicy high vibrations to create what you DO love.
The Law of Clarity
When you’re clear of the negative emotions (anger, frustration, grief, sadness etc.) that recreate unwanted situations and patterns in your life, you’re a clear vessel. You vibrate with feelings of joy, love, happiness, peace and THEN you create that magic in your life, attracting what you love.
Use gratitude for where you are now and what you have; this is the bridge to even more magical outcomes. Let me know how you get on with The Law of Clarity and please feel free to share this post.
I love you!
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December 27, 2014 – Watch this 8 min YouTube video Celebrities Talk ‘The Law of Attraction” click here…
With Richard Gere, Denzel Washington, Matt Damon & Jim Carrey
They seem to be talking about ‘The Law of Clarity’.. Enjoy creating lovelies, and feel free to share this blog on your social networks and with friends. Aloha x
Remember your power!
In any moment, in any situation, you have the power of choice.
Choose who you spend time with.
Choose how you feel.
Choose your dreams.
Choose your state of being.
Choose what action to take.
Choose how you interpret anything.
Choose whether, or how you react to someone or a situation.
The more you choose to be in love, the more you are being the change you wish to see in the world.
This DOES mean speaking your truth, and being courageous enough to be real with others.
In fact, it’s all about being real; from the motivation of love, rather than fear.
Good luck & I love you!
I’m so very excited because this is…
The first day of the life I choose…
It’s also the first day I’m using the tools from a wonderful course called ‘Blogging from the Heart’ with Susannah Conway. I LOVE writing, but I have a juicy little inner critic who always asks me ‘is this the way it’s meant to be done?’ About my inner gremlin; after spending most of my life not conscious of it, then conscious, then berating it, now I love it, we’re friends and I love its little tricks 🙂 As I’ve become conscious of it, I’ve taken the power out of its negativity. I LOVE blogging because there’s actually no ‘right way’ to do it. We’re all unique, and blogging gives us a chance to shine and share our ways; there is no right or wrong.
I was drawn to this course because I know that when I speak from the heart it’s truthful communication sometimes with joy, sadness, passion and raw vulnerablity. At least now, it’s becoming clear to me that that’s my current focus.
So what would I like to share today?
I’d like to offer a gentle stroke of your forehead. Y’know, we’re experiencing a time on this planet like never before. Everything is shifting and changing. What isn’t of light, beauty and love is coming up to be released.
Please be gentle with yourself dear soul, and remember the journey we’re on is like a spiral.
Old patterns WILL come up, but like the spiral of a fern unfurling its fronds towards the light, the spiral gets less and less until all of the fern is in the light. When you’re in a dark place, know that it’s all part of the process of showing your beauty to the sun and welcome it in. Darkness doesn’t exist in the sunshine, so shine, baby shine!
I love you Divine Wonder Full Being 😉
Love, light & magic,
Gerri (Geraldine) McMahon
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