Like fertile soil, the subconscious takes everything in; it doesn’t discriminate in terms of what’s good or bad; everything goes in! I’ve always been intrigued by the power and capacity of the subconscious. It takes in 20 million bits of information every second, whereas the conscious mind can only process 40 bits of information a second. The subconscious can process 500 thousand times more than the conscious mind!
It would drive you crazy if everything was consciously experienced. What I find fascinating is that one of the filters consists of your beliefs and assumptions. Being aware of our beliefs is really important because they colour our world. If we’re subconsciously focused on a negative belief like ‘I’m powerless’, or ‘I’m not good enough’, that’s what we expect and that’s what shows up in our world because focus creates reality. Because the subconscious remembers everything; hypnotists and shamanic pracitioners can access it to clear deep problems, blocks, patterns and addictions. The root of every problem is held there; all of your memories; even down to the colour of the curtains in your bedroom when you were 2 years old (which hopefully wasn’t too much of a problem) is stored therein! 🙂
I’d like to share an example of a client, I have her permission, but let’s call her Rebecca anyway. She wanted to get to the root of her lack of success in relationships and the deep pain she constantly felt when she got close to someone. During a ‘Soul Discovery’ process we remembered an incident when she was 3 and she witnessed her mother and father having an argument after which her father left the house. She ‘made up’ that the row was directly related to her (when we’re children we believe the entire world revolves around us and everything relates to us). She believed that her father had rejected and abandoned her which resulted in her having the belief of being unworthy and unlovable; her assumption was that she’d be abandoned and rejected by the masculine.
Consequently, this is what happened over and over in her life. Either she’d attract men who would reject and abandon her, she’d believe so much that it was going to happen that in the end it did, or even when it wasn’t happening she believed that she was being abandoned and rejected. This had happened over and over again with men in her life. You see this is actually a gift, because those we love WILL push our buttons so we grow and learn and release the memory. This is especially the case with relationships which are forming now; the ‘new paradigm’ relationships.
We can’t create have a sovereign relationship with our old baggage and old world ways of being. This doesn’t mean we have to be perfect, but the old destructive patterns of control, blame, manipulation etc. are being gently (and sometimes not so gently lol) washed away. We’re been given the opportunity to see that whatever is showing up in our reality has to do with US and no one else.
So during this very powerful, deep process we explored this incident from the perspective of her higher self (her soul or the spiritual aspect of her). She realised that the argument between her parents was nothing to do with her. It was a random disagreement and her father had actually just left the house for a few hours to prevent the row from escalating. This gave her mother time to get out of her ‘pain body’ (to use an Eckhart Tolle phrase) and calm down. What dawned on Rebecca was that her mother and father loved each other deeply, but they weren’t very good at feeling it and expressing it. It was almost as if arguing was their unconscious way of ‘trying’ to connect and get love from the other. This pattern is showing up a lot in my sessions over the last few years, our parents inability to express love which leads to all sorts of chaos.
Rebecca had had an awareness of her beliefs and patterns before this session, but seeing it from the higher perspective allowed her to feel deep sadness at having held onto the belief for so long, this was then transmuted into love. With that awareness she was able to really feel it on the physical level. She could literally feel, in her body how she had continually created feelings of rejection and abandonment. Before she’d just been aware of it in her head, but she got it on a deep, cellular level. Once she had this realization, it stopped the pattern, because it was all made up. She could also see how it was all divinely planned so she could learn this lesson. Rebecca is now in a wonderful, sovereign relationship with the man of her dreams and coaches others. This man may at some point abandon or reject her (before even if her partner went away for a day she’d feel deep pain, rejection & abandonment), but now, she doesn’t have the same buttons, so she won’t react and subsequently feel the pain she felt before.
I think I know my pattern, now what?
Having an awareness of your beliefs and assumptions is really important because that allows you to take the power out of them. We attract our reality depending on what we’re making up. I don’t recommend trying to change your beliefs. When we try to change our beliefs, the focus is still on them. For instance, someone with an ‘I’m not good enough’ belief might be a perpetual student, or a high flyer to try and prove that they ARE good enough. By trying to change that belief, the focus is still on the belief so they try and try, and still they feel ‘not good enough’. It’s like the flowerbed, we’re still focusing on the weeds and giving them energy.
Where’s The Power?
If you use the example of shareholders in a company, if you’ve got 51% of the shares, you’ve got power in the company. The same with our focus, if 51% (or more) of your focus is on a belief, then that’s got the power and you manifest the belief, rather than what you love.
I used to use affirmations for years but the more I said “I love and approve of myself” or words to that effect I was actually still focusing on being unworthy and of not loving myself so I’d end up totally depressed! You don’t see Richard Branson or the like saying ‘Each and every day I’m getting better and better’, he just does! I’d also like to add here that Richard’s favourite pastime is daydreaming, he doesn’t just dream though, he takes action on his dreams (rather than on his beliefs). His power and focus are not on his beliefs.
This is the key… it’s what you take ACTION on that creates your reality, if you take action after your thoughts of ‘I’m not worthy’ then that’s what you manifest………
The Key Is….. CREATE!
Focus your attention on a higher vibration and CREATE, CREATE, CREATE what you love! Focus on your life purpose. When you’re doing what you love, this automatically results in making a difference in the world. Whether you’re an artist, a teacher, a therapist or whatever, when you’re doing what you love, you’re focusing on a higher structure, you’re creating and your focus is on your heart; your treasure. Rather than seeking outside of you like the character in ‘The Alchemist’ you realise that your treasure is within.
Even More Magic
Something magical happens when you’re not trying to change your belief and you’re focussing on creating what you love, fulfilling your life purpose. You realise you ARE powerful, you are capable; lovable and worthy of everything you love. Whatever your belief was, you realise it’s absolute codswollop, it’s sooo not true! It takes will to focus on what you would love, the higher and lower vibrations are always competing but the highest vibration will always win. When you’re in service to a higher purpose, the higher wins. It takes will to stay focussed on what you’d love, rather than your beliefs. It’s like going to the gym, you don’t go once and think that’s it for the rest of your life, it’s like a muscle, it takes practice and exercising it over and over again.
I love you, you delicious, worthy wonderful human being 😉